Arguments

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Which do you think lasts better: When couples don't argue at all, or when there's little (or big) fights sometimes?I think it makes more sense to me that no fights would mean a better relationship, but maybe I'm wrong.. Just looking for peoples opinions on it.

When my girlfriend and I first started dating we didn't argue or talk about anything controversial at all because we were afraid of hurting each other. But that always left one of us angry at something the other person said so gradually we began to into heated discussions(arguments) and it has made a huge difference. She has made me re-evaluate all of my ideas on controversial issues because we have pretty different beliefs. As long as you respect what the other person has to say then I'd say arguments are almost neccesary in relationships.

My parents argued a lot, and they were happily married for 45 years. But it would drive me insane to have a relationship like that (which might surprise some folks ). I guess it depends on the person.I've had long, close friendships where I can't remember having a single argument, but it's tougher when a relationship becomes emotionally intimate. Things get amplified. I don't see how you can avoid occasional arguments.

i think that arguments are a key parts of relationships, you cant not have any, cause when there is one, no matter how small you guys might get freaked out and call it quits.

I think if your in a relationship where there are no arguments, then one person isn't being themselves - they are going along with the other person for an easy life, putting up with things, or not being true to themselves and voicing their own opinions.

A true relationship is one where you can voice your differing opinions and be yourself, and that will inevitable cause arguements at some time. The key is to accept other peoples differences and not think badly of them if they think differently to you, but i think people are generally SO different that arguments are bound to happen, its what happens after an arguement that matters - if you can be a big enough person to say sorry whoever started it, and learn from it, then they are helpful to any relationship, whether it be with parents, friends or lovers. Just my opinion.

I was curious because me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and haven't had one fight yet. then I look at my one friend who's been with his girlfriend for almost 2 years, and they fight and argue everyday about every little thing. It's sad, and I dont know how he puts up with her, because everything they fight about is her doing. So we are two opposite extremes, but we are both working out fine

Well ive been with my girlfriend for a little over a month and we've been arguin since the first week lol. It totally seems like we've been together longer becuase we are so confortable around eachother. Right off the bat we were honest about everything, so theres no surprises now and we just argue about stupid shit. But when we argue i think we are even better after that because we get our feelings out and see what makes the other person mad so you dont do it again. Plus you realize how much you like them. does this make sense to neone?

I think that's how some people show affection... by argueing...

I've been with my bf for about 7 - 8 months now and we;ve only had about 4 arguements, and they weren't really serious or big. If we have a problem I think most of the time we will just come out n say it, and the other person will try n understand what they mean and know not to do the thing again... or give an explanation

My better half and i don't argue too much we usually sort things out before they get too bad. If we do argue its usually over nothing and probably because I have had a bad day at work and every little thing he does annoys me and we end up having a silly argument over nothing. We know each other too well and what pushes each others buttons. It really bugs him cos he will say to me, "What's up?" and I reply, "Nothing" when we both know there is something up and it goes on and on. The making up part is good though so there is always a plus side to it.