Stop the drugs, and get help from a professional for depression. If you feel this way about yourself, then other people can see that, and women will stay away from you.You sound like your suffering from severe depression, probably made worse with the drugs, I was depressed a few years ago, and I felt kinda the same. But i got help and turned my life around. Im too fucking stubborn to give in!
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I have to check out...
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woman dont like you cause you hate yourself, it is a major difference if someone who is confidant asks you out, as compared to someone who isnt.
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ok - this is a very serious problem that you have but not something that you can't overcome with help.
I have read through all of your replies and it seems that you think the world has a downer on you. I believe you are wrong and a lot of these things will become skills that you will gain as you continue your life. I also believe that these are things that you want to succeed at so there is no point in ending your life as you will have failed.
Here's the deal. STOP and seriously think about what you want to achieve here. It is obvious that you want some form of guidance or you would not have posted here. Bear in mind that Rome was not built in a day and take one day at a time. You are capable of positive thought, you have shown that by holding down a job, regardless of how menial or low paid it is.
Now is the time to do a bit more positive thinking.
What is the ONE thing that you want to achieve today?
Now I am not talking about losing your virginity or getting a higher paid job, that WILL come later.
I am talking about achieving something very simple like walking down the street with your head held high or not falling over or something. These sorts of things will help you build your confidence and then you can tackle the major hurdle.
Do me a favour, give me a reply and then we will talk some more.
PS. Bit of advice... Other people have no idea what you are thinking or what your phobias are, the trick is to not let your fears show. Respectively, you don't know what they are thinking or what their phobias are either and it is best not to assume the worst. -
You sound a lot like I did a few weeks/months ago... after seeing a counselor and finally getting my first girlfriend I feel MUCH better but I can't deny that I'm still depressed about the same old things... I still think about killing myself and all the same old shit...
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I will tell you this white lines, i was too a virgin at age 19... I am 20 now. I have had so much sex now it's not even funny.I once thought losing my virginity would take away so many problems, it doesn't. It adds to them, it is great i admit but don't worry man... I too once felt it will never happen, the next tim your around a lady think like this.......You don't care, you don't want to sleep with her and she is taken... You'll be yourself, you won't care what she is like in bed. Focus on not caring, so you can be yourself. A woman will come to you, and youll get laid. Thats how i got my first, i decided she was married (which she was) and i could never have her. I screwed her 3 days later for a week straight (not happen i did that). As for the job, it happens. Look elsewhere, or look into moving. You won't start making real money until you get a career so work at that. Money is just money after all.I wish you the best of luck.-Dan
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Did you ever think about getting another job? Look in to your local construction companies. You should make some decent money and learn some skills. You need to be confident bro, or the chicks no go. Weed.. Take a break. Get shit in order. Now my chest hurts.. So Im leaving.. Peace
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I might get a better job but I have to order some powdered piss first, right now though I'm applying for school and I'd rather do that so my parents will just give me an allowance every week and I'll have no other responsibilites other that acedemics.
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No.. You need some responsibility. Your 19. Get off the weed and everything else for 30 days and get a better job AND get in school... Keep you busy so you wont be so depressed.
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Thank god someone besides me thinks that way. it pisses me off the only reason he wants to go to school is so his parents give him an allowance...
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No that isnt true, it's just a perk.
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Girls don't find you unattractive, you find yourself unattractive. How do you expect someone else to love you when you can't love yourself (emotionally). Stop looking at excuses to why lifes a b!tch and start changing things for better, beginning with yourself. I'm 22 and am also a virgin, there is no way in hell i'm letting that bring me down. You can only do what you allow youself to do. You are capable of anything, you just have to allow yourself to do it. Its not going to happen in one day, it will happen slowly, but you need to start with yourself and stop hating yourself. The world will look a whole lot more different when you do stop.
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I have tried telling him that, but he only either yells, or tells us we're wrong
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hey well im trying, i started doing pushups and situps again at night, i used to do them all the time like a year and a half ago when i was going to join the armed forces, i got to about 70 pushups in 2 minutes, and like 100 situps before i deserted. last night i only did about 3 sets of 20 a couple of minutes apart and my arms and chest are still sore as hell. anyways, i look over at hot girls i see while driving and try to get their attention and stuff, and i only help out the hot girls at work too so im trying
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only the hot girls rolls eyes That figures... who cares if they're nice, you just want that ass...
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because i just dont feel attracted to large women with mullets and beards, sorry
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your going to die extremely lonely
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So what do you find to be attractive? Thin, athletic, golden blonde hair that glows in the sunlight, perfect pouting lips, deep loving eyes, skin like silk?Or just anything that isn't fat, hairy and looks like they've stumbled out of the 80s?
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I know you all must think I'm a horrible person but I'm really nice if you get to know me, anyhow, I'm still nice to unattractive girls, I just couldn't have a romantic involvment, I don't see anything wrong with that.
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Well, I see where you're coming from. You don't feel that you can have a relationship with someone you don't feel physically attracted to, thats ok. And its good that you don't completely ignore the "unattractive" girls. But it will come to a point where you find that maybe one of these so called unattractive girls has a lot more to offer than the girls that you suppose would turn you down if you ever bothered your arse to ask them out.
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I know I'd never attract a hot girl, but I think I could get someone in the high-mids area. I could settle for that.