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That just an attempt by those who like to use nigger to take the sting away
What if it's one black guy to his friend, who is also black? I.e. what's up my nigga? Do you think he's intentionally trying to make it seem as if he's not being insulting, even though it's to his friend? Do you think he means it as a derogatory remark? Even well-educated men say the word nigga.
Is it like gay men calling each other fags?
> IF it happens. in your life that someone must describe you physically, should your race be included?
And to think...I've been accused of being politically correct. Suppose you need to tell someone, "Go talk to that guy", but that guy is not in front of you. Suppose the guy you're talking about is Asian (not Oriental, because it's derogatory to refer to a person as Oriental) or Latin (not Hispanic, because it's derogatory to refer to a person as Hispanic) in a crowd of white caucasians. Does it really make sense to overlook the person's race in that context?
therein lies the rub."which guy in the golf shirt?"the black one?the white one?the oriental or oxidental?the blonde?the girl?We are individuals and our race, sex, etc. is part of how we define ourselves. We shouldn't get too upset if others use parts of our individuality to define us.Simply... don't use hurtful words.
I don't recall ever hearing a homosexual male ever calling another one homosexual...not saying it doens't happen. But you have to look at the way the person says it. I'm sure black males call other black males nigga as a derogatory remark, but "fuck you nigga" is different then "what's up nigga?"
It seems as if most people live in the world of black and white.. there is so many more insults than calling someone a "nigger" or "cracker" .. what about calling someone a pakki, or a chink etc. .. It's just as bad and offending..
I think everyone should go see the movie crash... It describes things perfectly.
Im dating a black guy.. and its almost like people saying "nigga" is so natural to him.. i went out with him and some buddies once.. and hes like "oooh youre gonna hate me for this" and he put on a song and it was all "nigga this nigga that.. nigga nigga nigga nigga" and i just sat there like :open_mouth:.. and he just laughed.. I find it offending personally.. I got really offended when one of my friends told me i should stick to dating white guys.. people are getting more and more racist everyday
I don't recall ever hearing a homosexual male ever calling another one homosexual..You must not hang out with uncloseted homosexuals...except the word "homosexual" isn't often used. Maybe it's a coastal thing.Speaking of racial issues, why do you identify your race in your screen name?
yes sir, i don't, it's not that i wouldn't...it's just no one that i know is openly homosexual/bisexual.
Unless I'mgood friends with them (and I still really wouldn't probably) I wouldn't call them that, and I'd take great offense to being called a "cracker" or "honkey" unless it's by a white guy 'cause I just tell them the same thing back.
In reply to: unless it's by a white guy Isn't that a bit hypocritical? And why would you take offense to it? They're just words...
No, don't get me wrong. I know about my history, and I know that being called a nigger, SHOULD hurt...But how can we move forward as a culture if we still cling to the idea that archaic words should hurt? We allow ourselves to project too much power into words. Take for example: "Your mother wears army boots"...yes that was considered a great insult only a few decades ago. Today some might consider that a compliment. As soon as we take the first step and not allow ourselves to become exacerbated by such comments, the sooner people will stop trying to use it against us. The saying will get old, and eventually subside.
"Your mother wears army boots"Was that a serious insult, or more of a joke, even then?I understand what you're saying. If you rob the word of it powerful meaning, than you rob the haters of a weapon. That is definitely why gay men sometimes call each other "fags".
exactly.
Of course you can encourage your children not to say such words. In fact I insist on it. But you can also teach your child that it shouldn't enrage nor hurt you. As long as they insist on using ignorant phrases, there is nothing you can do, except take the power out of the words, as steve said. No one can bring you down without your consent.
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As long as they insist on using ignorant phrases, there is nothing you can do, except take the power out of the words, as steve said. No one can bring you down without your consent.
sorry I should've said, as long as people insist on using the n-bomb...I didn't mean for it to sound like as long your child insists on using the term ni**er. That's my fault. I wasn't clear.
