Ok I've been with my girl for a long time now and I used to absolutely LOVE going down on her. There are so many more things I can do with my tongue then my fingers. In fact I have no idea what to do with my hands!Recently she's revealed she isn't comfortable with me going down on her because she isn't ready for that because she isn't at that point yet. Which is ok... I can't force her to do anything and I certainly don't want to! She said fingering her was still ok. I've tried it maybe 3 times since we've been going out and I've only been successful once. I thought I knew female anatomy well but even when I was eating her out I have difficulty finding her clitoris and while I'm fingering her I have NO idea whatsoever.This is kind of embarrasing because in sex-ed classes I always had a very high mark and I've even taught her things about herself she didn't know! So it's weird to "go to a certain spot" and not find what your looking for!Also while fingering and previously while eating her out I would occasionally insert a finger inside her to find her G-spot. I never could find it! I was also told to stick a finger in and do the "come-hither motion." but how far in is my finger? is it 1 or 2 or 3 or 4 or more inches inside her? how will I know I've found it?Help me! lol.... whats a very good... yet discret way of finding her clitoris and G-spot faster without fumbling around like an uneducated little schoolboy who doesnt know what he is doing?!Thanks a bunch!
Nervous question from a shy guy to you bold ladies
well i'm not a woman but i'm pretty sure that for you to be able to find the g-spot, she has to be pretty aroused already. and it's best to go looking for it after she's already had an orgasm.it swells and becomes more visible...not visible in the sense that you can see it, just more evident. fills up with fluid and thats how they squirt. hence the name "urethral sponge".and no ive never done any o this though im sure id end up just like you. easy to talk about it and give directions but once you're there with it bubbling in front of your face its a different story. but in theory, i'm a cassanova! as for finding her clitoris just open her lips and look. maybe telling her what you're doing so she doesn't think you're just fumbling around down there might help. i can't imagine she'd feel comfortable just lying there staring at the ceiling not knowing what you're goal is.the-clitoris.com has great information. and of course there's always porn to get detailed views of a vagina. at least you'll have an even better idea of where all the parts are.
I saw a special on HBO last night talking about this, so hopefully it helps. I haven't realli found my g-spot yet, or i have and didn't realize it. But anywayz, the girls on t.v were instructing a few men on how to find it.
First, get her really aroused by caressing her entire body, w/o touching her pussy. Get closer and closer to it as you move, teasing her. She'll be wet in no time.
Next, insert two fingers (make sure your finger nails are clipped) into her pussy as far as you can, and place ur fingers from your other hand on her belly. Push up with the fingers inside, and push down with the fingers on her belly to match up each hand. Then do the come hither move until you see a reaction from her. Even hook ur fingers underneathe her pubic bone...it feels amazing apparently. If you do it slow at first, then increase pace, she'll come in no time. And to find the clit, be gentle and lightly run ur fingers down and around her pussy lips, and the clit will come out when it swells up. Not completely, but enough that if you feel around you'll feel a bumb. It's at the top of her pussy lips, don't rub it hard unless she asks u to.
you don't seem like a shy guy to me