I've got a friend who keeps hooking up with guys that she knows it won't work out in the long run, yet she can't help herself when it comes to staying with them for long periods. She's had 2 main boyfriends.On the first main one: She had a lot of guys go out with her and dump her when they figured out they weren't going to get any soon. So she was feeling used, then she met Main Guy #1. He made her feel appreciated and everything and she only decided to hook up with him because she knew he wouldn't hurt her. After 6 months, they had sex and she felt closer to him than anything. After almost a 3 year relationship she broke up with him.On the second main one: After her 3 year relationship, she decided she'd live the single life for a while and go on a "fling". Well, she hooked up with this guy and had sex with him. Now she can't leave him. She even told me she thinks it won't work out but she can't help herself but stay with him and she never meant to fall in love with him.I've been reading up on some things as far as what chemicals the brain releases as far as love and sex go. According to my research, females release a chemical called Oxytocin into their brain when they have sex with someone. The affect of this chemical is the fuzzy warm feeling you may have for that particular person. My theory is that my friend is tricking her own body by having sex with someone she doesn't see a lasting relationship with.What do you all think?
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Love Trick by Sex
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Some reading material for you all if you're interested.http://www.sensualism.com/love/index.htmlhttp://www.oxytocin.org/cuddle-hormone/index.htmlAn excerpt from the oxytocin website:In addition, studies show that oxytocin in females, as well as the closely related vasopressin in males, is key to pair bonding."You first meet him and he’s passable," Witt said of the phenomena. "The second time you go out with him, he’s OK. The third time you go out with him, you have sex. And from that point on you can’t imagine what life would be like without him.""What’s behind it?" she added. "It could be oxytocin."
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what if the girl says she loves him b4 they ever have sex. then it can't be oxytocin. but then she could be playing that same card as some guys do just to screw them. i been chewing over some thoughts about my gf. i know i couldn't take it if i ever found out she is /was using me.
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Naw, usually women are sincere when they say "I'm in love with you".A girl doesn't have feelings for a guy but has sex with him and then all of a sudden is "in love" with him; I think this is due to oxytocin.Besides, your girl in particular is a keeper CR.