How effective is the guilt trip? I'm going to go onto my friend's messenger account and show her my conversation with my friend. Here it is: My friend: hey kidMe: I got smoked hardcore read this ... Me: Me: I was thinking about you while I was biking and I thought to myself ... why should I let myself get emotionally degraded by trying so hard and not getting anywhere ... I guess what I'm really trying to say is do I have a chance or not because it would help me out a bit here if I knew. --Her: well to tell you the truth, no.. I really like Josh and if Josh and I were to break up, I'd want to be single how long, and I just think of you as a friend --Me: that's ok, I understand --Her: I'm sorry --Me: Sigh, you are a goddess what was I thinking trying to win someone over who is forever wise and beautiful, I'm nothing more than a mere peasant who has to deal with life's everyday disturbances and hardships. --Her: you're way too nice to me, I'm sorryMy Friend: Again Really Phylisophically deepMy Friend: But you got lit upMe: yepMe: that's a fuck you never try again, lolMy Friend: I understandMe: I guess she was out of my leagueMy Friend: I would not go that farMe: yeah and even now when I look at it again I can interpret it and it means never try againMy Friend: no ideaMe: every girl I've ever known has just considered me a good friend... wtf am I doing wrongMy Friend: no ideaMe: look at what I was going to say if she said yes …Me: You are a goddess how is it possible that someone who is forever wise and beautiful managed to give a mere peasant like myself who has to deal with life’s everyday disturbances and hardships a chance. A day hasn’t passed where u haven’t been on my mind you’re like a flower which gathers all the bees and I’m like a petal that is just about to fall off. You make life so much more invigorating with a smile always on your face with a story to tell. Even while typing this I ask myself how this is possible I’m so normal and you’re so perfect.My Friend: Do you want some help finding another one?Me: yes but I don't know where to begin, it’s going to be hard finding someone like her againMy Friend: Well, just sit on it for the weekend and we will start on mondayMe: is it wrong to lay your heart on the table? I've always been told to tell a person how u feel and that has gotten me nowhere, oh well, I'll just cram it into my already fucked up brain, she'll be a good friend anyways My Friend: yaMy Friend: I know what you meanMe: I did everything in my power to win her over, from day 1 when u pointed me out to her I knew I had to redevelop my personality and body, I've succeeded in that yet I still haven't found truthMy Friend: wow, this is really deepMe: well neways … man I fell asleep watching Hell BoyMe: lolMy Friend: I will call you tomorrow okMe: I'll only be home tomorrow night so call me thenMy Friend: okIf I show this to her what do u think it'll do?
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Is this rejection?
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Either scare her, annoy her, or she wont change her mind.It's not going to yield any positive results. Her telling you no, means no. Unfortunately. Like the rest of the guys here said, move on. Thats what I did and now I have an amazing girlfriend whos a million times better than the one I wanted. If it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone.
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It's unfortunate, but this looks like a solid no. As everyone else has advised, you should try your best to get over her. Guilt trips won't work, and neither will anything else. Just as no one controls your thoughts and desires, so you will not be able to control the desires of others. Sad has it right, any further action is only likely to strain your relationship and intensify your pain... look to the future
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Sadly.... You sound like me. It's time to move on buddy.
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its her life and shes gonna live it however she wants to... and do you really want a gf, because she feels guilty for rejecting you?
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I never showed it to her I realized I was trying to manipulate her and that's just wrong. I guess if it's meant to happen it'll happen. Yes I do want a girlfriend.
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What would annoying her do?
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probably alienate her and destroy possibility for friendship
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If I get your question, he's not suggesting that you annoy her. He's merely answering your question about what your message would accomplish- you'd likely annoy or scare her.
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oh, aight I see now.