five years ago i was diagnosed with a borderline personality disorder and with bi-polar disorder. It has been hell, in and out of hospitals, the whole nine. Since then i've come to accept my illness and live my life. Now i have another problem. I'm in Love. My girlfreind accepts my illness and is very very supportive, but i worry, and i'm too paranoid. I dont worry about her cheating on me, i just worry about her giving up for no reason what so ever. I was just wondering if anyone else has experianced this. I talk to my slew of shirnks but they all say the same thing.. "MORE MEDICATION" thanks. NED
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Borderline/bi-polar
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I think as long as you let your girl know that she's loved and appreciated, she won't go away.
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She won't leave you because of your illness, and she won't give up on you unless you give up on yourself. My father is also bi-polar. He's been wonderful to my mother, and though it hasn't always been easy, she has always loved him and always helped him.Illness is not a good enough reason to leave someone. You leave them because they give up on themselves or because they allow their illness to hurt the ones they love. Fight it and don't let it interfere with your relationship. She'll understand. She'll also admire you for treating yourself and her with respect regardless of your struggle with your diseases. edit: On more thing. Ned, I read your post on the "My parents saw my cuts" thread . I don't know you personally, but I honestly think that you're an inspiring individual. If anyone can juggle both a loving and deep relationship and an internal struggle with illness, I'm sure that you can. Your loved one would be a fool to give up on a person like yourself. Fight on...
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Thanks steppenwolf. It has never been easy, but to me giving up is not an option. Its kinda hard to explaine, but i feel like i have more of a purpose, as arrogant as that may sound. Im glad that you shared about your parents, that just gives me more of a positive outlook on the whole thing. Thanks for the complement. I feel that I kinda had an idea of what that kid was going through, and if i've made it this far anyone can. It's never always easy, but it's always managible. I will continue to fight on.
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In reply to: I'm in Love. My girlfreind accepts my illness and is very very supportive, but i worry, and i'm too paranoid. I under stand that feeling. my gf is like that. I at 1st didn't want to date her but i gave in and we took our friendship to dating. I fear she's using me. I know the only reson y she did come friends with me was cuz she wanted to date me. I remember the 1st day we met, at a horse show lol, and i remeber what was said when i left her and her friends. She was the 1st to become friends with me after i moved, and probly the hole time she wanted to date me. i mean we met in Aug and started dating like in sept. soo go figure lol I was talking to a friend and i told her i was falling in love with Laces. so much that if i wasn't so young i'd marry her. But i still have have this battle going on in my head that she's using me. That there is a hidden reason to why she likes me. I get into conversations about this with a very close friend and he makes me see things. then he asked me the question would she do that? and me knowing her would say no. getting to the point of things i'm scared as hell of getting hurt.
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It's understandable for both of you that you're scared of getting hurt. But I'm sure you also both know that life means taking risks - if you don't take risks, you don't live. And the risk is in fact low for both of you - your girlfriends know your problems, and they stay with you, and obviously want to stay with you.But there's that nagging doubt - and I think it's an element of OCD surfacing. It's the same sort of non-rational doubt that says "you have to check that door is locked again - what if you didn't check it properly all those other times?". If it's not fully suppressed by the medication, you have to learn to ignore it and go ahead regardless.