Why is a guy desperate and women can be picky?

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I've heard the same old story, but I don't get it. If a guy and a women have an equal sex drive...I don't know. Could it be that guys are conditioned to feel they need sex more than women? Why can't guys be picky too? Why do they feel that have to have sex so bad they'll sleep with anything and women have better odds? Men and women both have genitals, it's not like only one hold the key to sex. In oder to have sex you need at least two people there. Why do some people believe that women hold the power when it comes to sex?

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"some people" are the ones that don't get women.Hahaha but seriously. Every girl I've ever dated I've told straight up if they ever use sex as a weapon or a tool I'll leave them. Women want sex just as much as men if they're healthy, they just don't like to admit it because they get a social stigma of "whore" so both genders are socialized in their roles.

I think this is complicated by several factors. Although some women have strong sex drives, many women don't - there is more of a spread, I think. There is the social factor that Technical referred to, that women are stigmatised if they sleep around, and men aren't. And there is the factor that must have been crucial in the times before contraception, and still may be instinctive, that it was the woman who was left with the baby.It is in fact normal among nearly all animals that many males court and the female is picky. She is the one biologically charged with selecting the best father for her offspring.

What if they're in a relationship, they wouldn't be "whores"if they wanted sex?What if you and your girlfriend had a fight, you both were mad at each, but didn't want to even be near each other...would it be a deal breaker if y'all were both using sex as a weapon?My sex drive is pretty much zero and I secretly like it that way. Sometimes I feel like having sex (I haven't yet) just to stay in a healthy relationship, even if I don't want to, would be giving power to someone else...in a twisted sort of way. Like the guy would have the control and if I said no, he wouldn't like that and our relationship would slowly weaken. We probably wouldn't be together long.

There's a difference between not wanting to have sex and using it as a weapon. Sex shouldn't be a "reward" or punishment. Sex should be there because you want to have it.If you have no sex drive that's something you can work on, and you say you like it that way, but that's the whole point, you don't have a sex drive. How can you like not having a sex drive if you don't have one? Switch it the other way around, if you have a sex drive then you will like sex.When me and a girlfriend have a fight? Often that's the best sex :PI mean if you don't want to try working on your sex drive, then you have no choice but to find a guy with a low sex drive. There are a few, not many, it kind of slims down your choices.Sex is part of a healthy relationship, you shouldn't have to feel like it's an obligation you should feel like you want to do it to deepen the bond.

I like not having to think about having sex. I like not having to worry about getting pregnant. Whateverthis is, not having a sex drive, I like it. I don't know if I understand what you mean. I know I don't have a sex drive because I don't want to have sex. I don't hate this feeling, so... What I do hate is meeting a guy that I like and realizing he may not want to wait for me. I'm afraid that I won't like sex and it will always be a chore. I'm afraid that I will give up control of my body. I don't like (the idea of) sharing [b]my[/b] body with someone else. It grosses me out, swapping fluids and what not. I just don't want to share and I hate making compromises.