I got a friend who I think may/may not like me. She's like my best friend, but sometimes it seems that she is being more than that. Like, she'll say that she loves me, which isn't surprising because we say that to each other. But, she also worries about me uncontrollably, she misses me all the time, and she loves it whenever I do something with her. Well, let me give you guys a background story on her. She was my first girlfriend back in 4th grade, and she was my first kiss. I never went out with her after we broke up (for no real reason), but I tried a couple of times. She used to really hate me. She would make fun of me and really make me look like crap. It wasn't until last year when she became nice, and now, she's my best friend (out of all friends).It makes me surprised whenever she says something like, "OMG! I missed you so much at school today!" (It was a day where I didn't go to school for a school function). The reason is because I'm not used to that coming from her all the time. And, I do see her as a really good friend, but it sometimes feels right if we were together. I'm pretty sure that she wants us to be friends, but do best friends really treat each other as if they were actually going out? We don't kiss or anything, nor do we hold hands. It's just how she acts toward me.
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Got a friend/girl problem...
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And here are some other points.
When we were talking about the upcoming Masquerade Ball (it's a new thing that's happening at our school), we got to the subject of dates. I said that I don't think I'd have a date by then, so I'll probably go alone. And she didn't think so either for herself. At that point, it was that feeling between us (this is over AIM, by the way) that was like scared to continue forward and just ask the other if they wanted to go with them. It's like you are with someone that you like, and you both know you want to go out with each other or something, but you are both afraid to say something. You know what I mean? Anyway, I asked her if she didn't have a date by then, then we could go together. She was all like, "Hell yeah, that's what I was thinking." I have a weird feeling that she won't have anyone by then.
Which brings me to another point. There's this guy that likes her (from what I can tell), and I was asking her what did she think about him. She goes all crazy-like because she could tell that he liked her. And she would say no to him, and all this stuff. Well, when I told her that I was a little interested in a friend of hers and mine, she got a little crazy, too. She immediately said, "Well, you should end that interest now because she doesn't like you like that." Very blunt and forward. I thought it was strange that she would be like that instead of saying, "Oh, I'm sorry, but I don't think she likes you like that," or something. Anyway, thanks for you all's help! :grin:
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Now that you've beaten this to death, way overthinking it, what do you think would happen if you asked her out on a date (would it even be noticeable, compared to what you might do anyway?), or told her that you were interested in her as more than just a friend?
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You see, I don't know. The reason for this is because I wrote her an email saying how glad I was that she forgot about all that junk in the past. And she wrote back saying that she was too, and that it's better to be just friends. Now, that was around early September or so. Her actions have escalated from there.
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like said before, this is an example of WAY overthinking it.it's so simple, 2 people like each other. don't beat around the bush. either ask her out, or make a move, -kiss her. you will save WEEKS and WEEKS of anxiety if you do. so much analysis and wasted energy!she either likes u like that, or she doesn't. it will suck if she doesn't, but don't worry. you two are real good friends right? then you're friendship should be able to overcome the small temporary hill of "yeah i like you"make a move, do not let an oppurtunity pass.what do you have to gain and what do you have to loose?push yourself, no pain no gain!
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You see, there's a problem with that. I've liked her before. We've already gone over the hill of "I like you" while we were good friends last year. I got rejected, of course (it wasn't that bad), but like I've said before, it's not the same. I don't want to jeopardize like the best friend I have to go out with her. Thanks so much for the help.
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She's had two consecutive (one night after another) dreams about me and particular so far. The first dream, I was with a friend of mine (I'll call her Z) (holding hands and stuff, basically acting like a couple), and then, she got mad and me and Z (I guess for being together). She said that she didn't think she would be mad at the idea of me and Z together, but she felt pretty angry at us. The next dream, she was holding my hand, and we were walking through a fair. Some person asked her why we were holding hands, and she said that we were just friends. She looked to the other side of me, and I was holding Z's hand, too (with my other hand). After she saw that, she got mad.I know this clearly shows that she has some feelings for me, but she just told me this openly, and I'm not sure how to interpret it. I don't want to just make a judgement and say, "oh well, she likes me," because I've done that before, and it didn't work out that way.
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I don't want to jeopardize like the best friend I have to go out with her.Then stop thinking of her "that way". If your friendship with her is keeping you from moving on because in the back of your mind you're hoping she'll fall for you, then there's a destructive element in your friendship.Can't you go out with someone else, and still maintain the friendship? If the answer is "no", then there's a problem with the friendship.
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Honestly dude it sounds like she wants you all to her self but either she wants to be with other guys also or is for some reason jelous of seeing you giving another girl attention.If a girl tells everyone shes ur best friend she has your dick in a glass case and is only going to break the case incase of an emergancy(sp?)... lyrics from a song i heard... that sounds like it applys to you.
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No, I can go out with other girls no problem. She wouldn't seem to mind because we are best friends. I wouldn't be sure really how she would feel about it.
And to the other guy, she isn't going out with anyone, nor does she have her eye on anyone (that's she told me). This one dude liked her who was a perfectly fine guy, but she didn't like him. And... I'm not sure how to interpret the second thing you said (about the dick being in glass).
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Doesn't this...> She wouldn't seem to mind because we are best friends....contradict this...> I wouldn't be sure really how she would feel about it....?> about the dick being in glassHe's saying that, even though she won't be you girlfriend, she'll selfishly stand in the way of your going out with someone else, so you you might as well just remove your penis, put it under glass, and give it the your friend for safekeeping; it's not going to be used.
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Her "seeming to mind" would be her appearance. I'm not sure what she would actually feel inside. For all I know, she may even look down if I go out with someone else, but I'm not sure about that whole thing. Sorry I didn't clarify.And, I'm not going to use my penis for anything (I'm for abstinence, or having sex with someone that I don't love), so I don't care much about that. And if she feels that I shouldn't go out with someone because she doesn't like them, then that only makes me feel a little better that she cares. But, she does have some insane persuasive tactics. She can practically make me think anything. And I can see your point in that regard.Thanks for the help!
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The penis thing was figurative. The idea is that she has you under her thumb, and you know it. It doesn't seem very fair to you, if she's not willing to make the commitment. What if you're in the same position ten years from now?
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im with steve all the way on thislike he pointed out before; In reply to: I don't want to jeopardize like the best friend I have to go out with her then please explain to us why you are posting this thread?it seems like you do want to jeopardise it. is there something wrong with that? no. just stop denying it!Doesnt this; In reply to: She wouldn't seem to mind because we are best friends. contradict this; In reply to: she got a little crazy, too. She immediately said, "Well, you should end that interest now because she doesn't like you like that." Very blunt and forward dude, in the end, its your life. you don't want to make a move but talk to everyone about her, -then be like that.... i was like that once before... one of the biggest regrets in my life