Cold sores

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two nights ago I slept over at my boyfriend's house and I sorta gave him a headjob. It was more of a handjob but i occasionally sucked and licked a bit. and now i feel a coldsore forming. so im super scared. also it's really complicated and please dont begin preaching when i tell you because no one will be willing to try and understand but he is also seeing this other girl and i know they both have sex.... i know but i love this man. so im also scared because that can be dangerous. im super worried about my cold sore.. and it's kind of itchy. is that normal? umm also i was wondering what other ways can please a man because i've heard that guys really like blowjobs.help me.

Is this the charming fellow who took your virginity? Are you the girl on the side, the main one?If you think you might have gotten some form of herpes from that piece of sh*t, who knows what else you might have gotten from him? If you're 15 and started having sex, this is the time you need to go to the gynecologist, if you haven't already. You also need to go to the doctor and get checked for STDs. They don't always show symptoms.How old is that dirbag of a guy anyway?

yes, how did you know?he's the guy who took my virginity.I've gone to the clinic twice before, one in august or september, and one in october. when we had sex without condom and with condom. first time nothing seemed wrong. second time i had a urinary tract infection.i just woke up and my cold sore is bothering me.

also, i get cold sores at the worst timing ever. i mean i've had cold sores before and not from oral sex or anything. it just springs up. i dont want to start and make excuses but sometimes it can be from cold weather. oh and i dont have cold sore...s, i have one cold sore. ...i have work in 7 hours and i hope this cools off for a bit. thanks for you help.

> I sorta gave him a headjob. It was more of a handjob but i occasionally sucked and licked a bit. and now i feel a coldsore forming. so im super scared.

It's not likely that you got cold sores (HSV 1) from him. But you risk giving him and HSV 1 infection in his genitals, which he may then pass to his other girlfriend(s).

HSV 1 is the herpes that normally infects the mouth, and HSV 2 is the herpes that normally infects the genitals, but either virus can infect both areas.

If I were you, I would be concerned about hepatitis, HIV, and other STDs that your boyfriend may be carrying. Why isn't he getting tested?

How old is this guy?

Okay so I had a talk with my boyfriend yesterday. I basically broke down at work. We had a walk and I began explaining to him about everything. I never asked my boyfriend to get tested until yesterday. He didn't try to avoid getting tested or anything and said he'll do it for me. He didnt want me to feel helpless. Then I talked about the other girl he was dating. I was trying to explain how worry I get and how sad it makes me. I do remember awhile ago he tried to break up with the other girl, and just ONE other girl... question is--is that other girl sleeping with others? But he saw how she was about to breakdown and promised she'll change. He explained to me that he doesn't see himself ending up with her at the end but she does. So he promised to get on that and figure a way to end without hurting her too much.And my cold sores are killing me. The middle of my lip is swollen and I look horrible. I bought abreva for the first time. Do any of you guys.. or girls have experience with this cream and how long did it take your cold sore to heal? I cant go to school like this.

IF the sores are external, Abreva is certainly the way to go. It will shorten the breakout eriod dramatically, but it will not kill the virus.

For goodness sakes, How old is this guy?

You are being so used. No one is holding a gun to the guy's head and forcing him to have sex with the other girl. This guy doesn not really care about you. He cares about getting his rocks off more than anything. How can I put this gently? He's lying to you.

> So he promised to get on that and figure a way to end without hurting her too much.

So you are the girl on the side. Why do you believe anything he says? Don't you think you're worth more than that? He's playing with your life so he can sleep around. Can't you see that this guy is not worth it? The no-condom issues shows where his priorities are. They're sure as hell not with your best interests.

Is there a self-value issue here? Is your user ID a clue to something?

Besides what you may catch from your "boyfriend", there's a risk that you'll spread herpes to him, and to everyone he's sleeping with, and to everyone they're sleeping with, and so on.

Sorry that I don't have much information about treating herpes. Did the clinic point you to Abreva? Have you tried searching for herpes treatment on Google?

The no-condom issues shows where his priorities are. They're sure as hell not with your best interests.completely agree^^ if this guy actually respected you, you wouldnt be questioning yourself, this guy is messing you around not only emotionally but could also have passed on a std to you...why are you still with him? to be honest, i would question if hes sleeping with this other girl-who says he isnt sleeping around with other girls? i know its difficult to be in this situation, ive had the asshole treatment before, but not to this degree,a dn you just got to get out.

please guys i am already aware of the cons in this relationship. i've been crying all day and i am really tired. i know all of you are just trying to look out for me but reading your posts only makes me sadder. Steve, I'm not telling you his age because that doesn't really matter. it was hard enough posting over the web that im involved with a guy who's involved with another girl. this guy, he tried to call it off earlier. saying that i do deserve better and that we should stop. and on the night he told me, i completely shattered. i started to tear up and he did a bit also. this was also before we ever considered in having sex. and i have thought about it over and over for a million times and when it comes down to it, i dont care if he has another girlfriend. i love him that much. yesterday, our talk. he said we have two options here. we can just completely stop having sex and be together or we can be super safe, condoms all the time, no question about it.i know he seems like a total slimeball. if i was to read a post similiar to this, i would shake my head as well. but it's different. even if im being naive and out of line, i am happy with him. he doesnt try to manipulate me and always let me make the decision. it is hard enough and listening to you lecture me hurts even though you have your best interests at heart. thank you steve. really.but what i really need now is a friend. someone who can just accept my descisions and help me. because i am scared. everytime i look at myself in the mirror i begin to cry. my lips feel numb, i can hardly eat, i can hardly talk.

i would shake my head as well. but it's differentYup, it's always different. And the fact that you won't say how old he is is very worrying.You know what you need to do. If you have cold sores, you need to follow the doctor's suggestions. Medical treatement works to varying degrees in different people, and at least one drug will make the outbreak milder, if you catch it in time.If you're having sex with someone who's having sex with other people, then you're taking a chance. You're taking a big chance if you're having sex without a condom. The only thing I can tell you is that you need to periodically be checked for STDs if you keep doing it. You can still get a yeast or bacterial infection in any case, but they're both more likely if you're sexually active.A true friend won't stand by and blindly support you as you do self-destructive things. You're not exactly in the best position to know whether your relationship is "different", and from everything you've said, it's not. A friend would try to help you understand why you're engaging in such destructive behavior, and why your self eseteem and self image are so poor. This is an area where professional help can get you further than friends can. Your life will be very unhappy until you can get to the bottom why you think you're worthless. You're not! What got you to this point?My advice to you is to get some counseling. There's a good chance that it will have a very positive impact on your life.That you won't reveal the guy's age is worrying indeed.

You are exactly the type of girl I used to prey on.little to no sel esteem, willing to put up with what ever I care to do just to keep me around. craves attention to support her self worth that is seriously lacking.Exactly the type of girl i used to seek out.Why do ya suppose that when I decided I wanted something ore then just some ass that I looked at a 100% different type of girl?You best gra and shake yourself and wake up.your in the same exact relationship as thousands of other girls. He is playing your ass to keep the sex coming. even if you didnt make up the shit about always use a condom from now on and Ill get tested right away and we can be friends with no sex, even if he actually said all of that, hes just talking shit. Its all lies and bullshit. Why can i be so sure?because I did the same thing to so many girls. Of course I also told them it was only about sex and not to be getting attached, its the best pick up line I ever found, suddenly Im a challenge and they all think they are the different ones that can change me. When I decided I wanted a real relationship, I shit canned them all and your not the one hes going to choose, your jsut one he knows he can fuck when he wants to. Easy to manipulate and willing to put up with the shit he does with out kicking him to the curb.If i were you Id go get some help, figure out why the hell your willing ot put up with it and put an end to it. Decide your worth more then this shit and boot his ass out, get on with your life and find someone that gives a shit about you. To find that, you first have to give a shit about yourself. Maybe youv gone too far down that road and need some professional help, if thats the case, get it.

You need to grow some self respect!!!Later in life you are going to hate this time in your life when you let this so called "boyfriend" walk all over you and stuff. This is crap. He shouldn't have 2 girlfriends, that is a total stab in your back. BTW, does the other girl know about you as you do her? He doesn't respect you or her, all he wants is to get as much ass as he can, and with you knowing about the other girl and still continueing to date, and have sexual relations with him is stupid. And with you not telling us his age, tells me that he is much older and if so, he knows alot more than you do sweetie. You need to get rid of him fast, respect yourself and loose the looser!!!!

What is the big deal about cold sores??? They are so common.My grandmother and great grandmother used to get cold sores? Calm down people...