Problem?

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Me and the fiancee used to be very naughty in bed together, but lately its just not happening.. I tried getting just a little drunk to loosen up, but it doesnt work. This isnt like me at all.What to do?

Hello there, Are you having any anxiety lately, new medication, added stress? All can alter a sex life.

I had a lot of stress and well, im manicdepressive with panicattacks, but ive been for years so i dont think its that. The stress and shit made me not wanna have sex, but im quite... well, quite ok now id say. Now i just want us to go back to, what he calls it, our kinky sexlife :PI mean, we can have 'normal' sex and such, but the kinky stuff just... i dont know, they dont happen, though we both talk about it and stuff, that both of us feel like it, but yet... nothing.. :/

Hmm Is your problem getting it initiated, or more hte feeling to actually do it?

I have no idea where the problem lies :/ Maybe thats the problem :P

Well you and your BF just moved in together right? When my BF moved in with me some of the kinky things we used to do died down for a little while, takes time to get used to having someone there. And in most relationships sexual "kinkiness" does wear off a bit after being together for a long period of time. I'm not saying it goes away completely, just dies down some.

well, we lived together since september.. and we did have some proböems with it, had some extreme fights. But its all ok, or 'ok' now... I just miss some things. Sex for him became like... ok, an example.

He sits at the pc all day, and suddently he is like 'im horny' then he goes to me and pushes me into bed and expects me to just have sex. No foreplay whatsoever and stuff. Nothing. And that annoys me like hell. If he tries it a nice way every now and then i like to just be opuhsed into bed, but not like this.

And he has an awfully bad breath lately, so... maybe its good with no kissing :P

After couples have been togethor for a while, it seems to me, a cycle of sexual activity sets in. It has ups and downs and it has nothing to do with how you feel about each other, just life I guess or maybe its just me.I've found sex to work this way, it goes:New relationship --> To The Point Sex --> Romantic Sex --> Kinky Sex --> Just Sex --> Ho Hum, Occasional Sex --> Super Hot, Super Kinky Sex --> Then repeat the cycle usually starting at Romantic SexAt least thats the way it works for me. --------------Don't know if the above still applies I didn't see your last post until when I typed mine. Just be upfront tell him you want some of the romantic stuff, tell him how you feel. Open communication is the only way to deal with that.

I totally agree with ya scotty................our sex life goes in circles..........

100% agree there Scotty. I think Adam and I have already been throught he cycle once and we're repeating now Happy me LoL.

Its just that he whines that we dont have anough, while i told him several times he is the one fucking it up

Then tell him you aint putt'in out until he starts putt'in forth some effort.Or you can take the lead. You've been togethor long enough. It might be easier to show him what you want than to tell him. Take control, there's nothing that says a women just has to lay there and take sex as its dished out to her. If you want romance and hes not getting the hints than you romance him and make it clear that's what you expect from him. Otherwise he ain't gonna get to hit that shit at all...j/k

hehe, trust me, im not the person that just let him do whatever, noo way :P I love to be in control and i am a lot of times...ah well, talked about it with my best friend today and it seems like everyone has the same prob.