16 is not that young. If you're 11, carrying to term can be very risky. If you're in your late 40's, there are also added risks.In any case, carrying to term is riskier to the mother's health than having an abortion. But there is some risk no matter what you do.
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Please help don't judge
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Speaking as a person that had a baby at 16, I can only say, this is your decision. And there are many people and places that will offer help to you with whatever you decide. For example if you decide to keep the baby and you do get kicked out, a place called "Birthright" (I think) will help with clothes, housing, etc. Planned Parenthood is also a good place to go to talk to someone.I went from wanting an abortion to adoption to finally deciding to keep the baby. I had NO help from my mother and I never had a father. Looking at my son and my life now, I know I made the right choice for myself. I definately sacrficed many, many things in my life.This is something that no one here can decide for you. Just know that there is help out there for whatever you decide. And remember you are not a bad person because of this.Good luck.
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I See no reason for an abortion. Personally I say that if you think you are mature enough to have sex, then you better be able to handle the consequences. It's not the childs fault that you got pregnant so why would you deny it it's right to live. A baby is a gift! My professional opinion on this is that you should seek help in all aspects. If your mother loves you then you should have nothing to worry about. As far as the Health Risks go, they are about the same either way you go. Bottom line, in my complete opinion (Personal and Professional) you should have this child. Take responsibility for your actions, if you don't you only show others how weak of a person you are. It takes more guts, or balls ,or whatever you want to say, to actually be a parent than to do any other thing in this world. I wish you the best of luck to you and your child. If you put your heart into anything, NOTHING can bring you down. Good Times and Good Luck Friend.
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There's a shortage of babies for adoption, so if you decide to do that you will be helping some childless couple a lot.
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As far as the Health Risks go, they are about the same either way you go.That is incorrect. Do you get your information from anti-abortion organizations? There are actual statistics on this. If they claim what you claim, then they are liars, since they should have the data at hand.> I See no reason for an abortion.People don't get abortions for no reason. Think about it some more, guy. If you insist that she have the child, then you sign up and support him.Original poster, the decision is yours. If you're pregnant, you need to weigh your options and decide what you need to do, regardless of what the kooks think.Are you a born again something-or-other, Mr. "Good Times and Good Luck Friend"?
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no Steve A I am not a born again something. I simply am stating an opinion and giving advice just as everyone else is. By the way your online statistics aren't always right my friend (not saying that they are wrong either). You say I need to support her child if I suggest she should have it. Nice way of not thinking buddy. There is a father involved in this, he should help support the child, and if neither one of them can or are not willing to support the child then I suggest adoption. If killing the child is what you would do then fine, I just hope you never impregnate a female. I have stated my opinion and no more need be said so, End of Discussion for me.
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your online statistics aren't always right my friend (not saying that they are wrong either)I don't know what you're saying, but they're not wrong in this thread.It would be a wonderful world if all 16-year-olds could raise a child without screwing up their lives, and if all fathers would step up and take responsibility, and if it were easy for 16-year-old couples with babies to make a go of it. Unfortunately, we live in the real world.When we're talkining about a fetus and you use phases like "killing the child", it's clear where you're coming from. The girl can make her own decision. If she wants to continue the pregnancy and give the child up for adoption (or not), it's up to her. Hopefully she won't be living on the street while she's doing it.
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CelestialOrgasm, whatever you decide to do, do it for YOURSELF. Not for anyone else. Do what you feel is right, and everything will be ok in the end. Personally, I would get an abortion instead of having a child I know I'm not mature enough to properly look after.Good luck, girl. You're on the right track.