So, umm this may be pretty pathetic but I figured someone would take pity on me. First of all, I'm a twenty-one year old virgin and recently a friend of mine suggested I get a vibrator to ease some fustration so, I did. I went for a slightly larger than average one not enormous 9 or 10 inch one but I certainly didn't get an averge or smaller than average sized one. So I used the thing and I certainly thought it went okay. It did hurt a bit but I expected that. So what's the problem, right? Next morning I find I bleeding preety heavily and it's not my period. I figure yeah maybe I tore my hymen but the amount of blood for that should be a rather small amount right?
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Advice
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Some women bleed a little, some bleed a lot. Any soreness? As long as you aren't feeling dizzy or anything it probably was simply your hymen. You could always insert a digit (ie your finger) and see if you can still feel the ring. If not then its gone and thats why its bleeding.
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Dizziness? Definitely not, soreness not really, odd cramping yes. Any suggestions about that? Oh, and thank you rune-san for answering.
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That could simply be from the loss of HYMEN HYMEN HYMEN HYMEN!! . I knew a girl who fingered herself for the first time and she had cramps for several days due to it. It should just go away on its own.My gf bled when she fingered herself cause she let a fingernail scrape the wall. Did you try your fingers first? If you did, did you make sure your fingernails were smooth?I'm fairly sure the bleeding and cramps are just fine. Just let your vagina rest. And I would definitely recommend that if you wish to continue using vibrators, that you invest in something smaller until you're more comfortable with aspect.
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Originally Posted By: rune-sanThat could simply be from the loss of virginity.I'm sorry but I'm raising the bullshit flag on that. Masturbating doesn't mean she lost her virginity. Losing one's virginity happens during intercourse. To the OP: The bleeding is normal, as well as the cramps. You'll be fine in a few days.
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im sure hes referring to her physical virginity, the hymen
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A broken hymen doesn't equal a loss of virginity. Unless you're from a culture or religion that believes that.
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well yes i know but he may believe, or think that
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Sigh, you're right. Thanks for putting me in my place. I shall go eat a twinkie now.
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Lol virty you got pretty ballistic over a miswording. I didn't mean virginity in a sense of "purity", simply the loss of the hymen. Now I know not to use that word around you, and I'll quickly edit to ensure not to incur any further wrath
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Quote:I didn't mean virginity in a sense of "purity", simply the loss of the hymenThe reason why I reacted they way that I did is because I don't have two definitions of virginity, like yourself. I've never even heard of that. How can one lose their virginity twice?I follow the simple, textbook definition. Virginity means the state of being a virgin, someone who hasn't had sex. And a hymen is just a membrane that covers the entrance to the vagina. To me, those are two very different things and have no connection whatsoever.All in all, sorry for earlier.
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yes you'll find im always right and can never be questioned.....HA even i cant say that with a straight face....
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Thank you all for the advice. The whole loss virginity vs loss of hymen one-sided mini-debate was funny to me. But that aside, thanks everyone that replied.
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Originally Posted By: Virtual_Star Quote:I didn't mean virginity in a sense of "purity", simply the loss of the hymenThe reason why I reacted they way that I did is because I don't have two definitions of virginity, like yourself. I've never even heard of that. How can one lose their virginity twice?I follow the simple, textbook definition. Virginity means the state of being a virgin, someone who hasn't had sex. And a hymen is just a membrane that covers the entrance to the vagina. To me, those are two very different things and have no connection whatsoever.All in all, sorry for earlier. I think you misunderstood. I don't have two definitions of virginity. I simply am used to talking with younger girls about this stuff. You would be surprised how many girls don't know what a hymen is (hell, I've ran into 3 college girls who didn't know). That's because they only hear "virginity" throughout their lives. Now I do eventually correct them, but you can't get started with them until they know what you're talking about now can you?Though in personal preference, for personal significance (the personal part is something I can't stress enough) I prefer my gf to have her hymen in tact if she was born with one. Again personal preference. I don't expect to explain it, excuse it, or debate it. The beauty of the world is that many of us have the privilege to enjoy our own opinions and desires. And in love there is someone out there for everyone. There is someone for her, for you, and for me. I've found that person and am thankful everyday that I have her.
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Originally Posted By: rune-sanI don't have two definitions of virginity. I simply am used to talking with younger girls about this stuff.Okay, I'm still confused. If that's so, then why did you say "I didn't mean virginity in a sense of "purity", simply the loss of the hymen"? Those are two different things.
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There is a connexion, in that if the hymen is still intact before sex, sex will make pretty sure it isn't. Nowadays loss of hymen usually occurs before loss of virginity, but in the days before tampons and vibrators they were usually simultaneous, and an intact hymen was a guarantee of virginity in the days when that was important.
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There is a connexion, in that if the hymen is still intact before sex, sex will make pretty sure it isn't.
In that case, I agree and I'm happy you brought that up.It's just, because the hymen has varied shapes, it's not a reliable proof of one's virginity. I understand that in past culture and medicine, that is what was believed (and continues to have an impact today). But I guess I choose to follow more modern definitions.