ok, my parents aren't the totally open type, they haven't talked to me about sex, dating, puberty...... So, I wanted to ask this girl out, but i was afraid of wut my parents would say since they've never mentioned the rules about dating and stuff. I'm kinda shy even around my parents and i think that's really wierd cause most people can tell anyhting to their parents... acually my main problem isn't asking this girl out, but how to be open with my parents... well wrong topic....but be nice and answer plz!
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Parent Issues
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Hmmm.. Maybe you could just mention to them that you are thinking of taking a girl out or something... maybe saying "what are you doing tonight?"Then after they answer, say "I was thinking of taking (name) out to see a film (or wherever else you might want to go...)"At least that way you can see their reaction. Even if you weren't actually going to go out with the girl on the night, you will have got their opinion, and if they say no you haven't lost anything because the plan wasnt there. But if they say Ok, and then wonder why you haven't gone out, you could give the excuse that everything fell through at the last minute and that you are arranging it for another night I've done this too many times. Lol! How old are you, just out of interest?
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Sometimes you really can't wait around for your parents to explain things to you. You have to approach them in order to get whatever it is off your mine. Drop your shy level around your parents. They maybe waiting for you to ask them some questions. Let them know that you are willing to be open if they are willing to have both an open mind and heart. I'm going on 20 this year and for the first time I have had an actual conversation with my father. He was such a stubborn man and it was hard to talk to him. Finally one day for an hour and 30 mins. . . we talked. Living in Detroit in an urban area fathers are not common. I was so glad I could finally talk this man without him biting off my ear. My mother and I are close. At first when I tried to talk to her she would yell at me causing me to close my feelings inside. When I went off to college she became more understanding. Now I can talk to her without being afraid to say what I really feel. Parents can be a handful but we love them no matter what. Don't go on a date with this girl until you have talked about dating etc with your parents so no conflicts will rise.Allow them to gain trust in you and vice versa.-Peace-
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Write them a note and leave it in the fridge. Say something like "What are the house rules about dating?" Give them a day or so and they'll come to you. And if they don't they probably will just expect for you to use your head.
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i asked my parents but they said i couldn't have a gf until college....WTF?and why are u a special member?
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Well that seems very unrealistic of them but I can se where they are coming from. I don't understand parents that actually think that is a rule they can enforce. It's better to face the reality that it's going to happen like it or not. And it would be better if they were there to walk you through it. Guess we all make mistakes.
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Well ain't that some shit. Your parents should be encouraging you to date.
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well acually my mom says its ok for me to have a girlfriend but my dad doesn't want me to have one. isn't it supposed to be the other way around?
the reason my dad doesn't want me to get a gf is prob. he thinks i'll get too into the girl and ruin my likfe or something