Friend is pressuring me
He keeps telling me to get a girlfriend. He's like, "Andy, man, you need a girlfriend.", and I'm like, "Ok.".
But I don't know. Most of my friends don't have them, and my friend's GF sat at our table and they kinda made fun of him a bit.
Also, he wants me to go out with this girl just because SHE likes me. I don't like her though. He says I need to just get into it or something.
It's weird.
What should I do?
Dude dont listen to your ''friend'' if he was a real friend he wouldnt be trying to pressure you into that. So this friend has a gf? if you would like to get back at him say how ugly his girl is or something lol.
dont do anything you dont want to. when u meet a girl that u like, then date her, but dont listen to ur friend
Ok, this is one of the most important advice I've ever gotten. Never, ever, ever, ever go out with a person your friend wants you to go out with. Never! It's just all kinds of bad. Last time my friends tried to "hook me up" with some guy I never even knew existed. He was baically another R. Kelly. Nasty boy. Go with your own choice. Don't go out with a girl you don't want. Your friends can't make you.
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He's an idiot.
He probably wants you to have gf to hang with him and his gf.
Flat out tell him "NO". That way there can be no misunderstandings.
He need you for a double date?is this a friend of the girl hes dating and needs someone to help him out so he can take her out?Take one fore the team, be the wingman, go with her and them to help out your buddy. a date doesn't mean that you have to be her bf, just her company for one night to further your buddy's quest, in return the bastard owes you one when you do find one ya like and need him to take out her friend so you can make some time with her.
Not unless you tell the girl right up front that you're not interested. WTF! You're going to use some other girl's feeling to help your buddy. Very poor taste. All "Users" are low. Be a genuine person at least you can respect yourself. And shame on anyone that tries to get you to use people.
If you take her out on a double date or take her while your buddy is with your friend, you are not using her, your running interference, a distraction if you prefer. End of the night you tell her your not interested in a relationship with her and no harm done, mean time your buddy had the chance he needed to be with the girl he was interested in.
Its no worse then girls going in groups to the pisser to chat.
**What is the point of going out with someone you don't like?????
Tell you so-called-friend to butt out, whats his problem anyway? Be yourself, and don't be pressured into anything. **
No, he doesn't need it for a double date... He just, I don't know.She's not butt ugly, but I don't want to kiss her or anything.I don't know, I keep telling him no, but he keeps saying I should do it. So confusing Oh well, I'll just keep telling him no.
Dude; just tell him to back off. You'll date when you're ready too. Until then.... Just don't fall victim to the pressure
WRONG because that whole night she though you were going out with her because of her. She went out with you because she thought you liked her. Not to help your pal. If you do that you are in fact using her. You are using her to get your buddy sometime with his girl. This post is making me think poorly of you grvtykllr. I guess you'd be happy about a hot chick you had been drooling about for a long time going out on a date with you so her friend could go out with your friend. Then telling you she wasn't interested at the end of the night. Right? She was after all just taking one for the team. When we go to the lady’s room together it's not some sneaky underhand deal. We need to wee or check hair and make up. I would think. I personally don’t like to go to the bathroom with other people. Don’t need that kind of confirmation. But I have gone with friends and never have us get into the bathroom and stand around doing nothing but talk.
You certainly wouldn't have to kiss anyone you don't want to!If he doesn't need you for a double or to run interference so he can take the other one out then tell him to piss off.As a best friend its your duty to play wingman for him when ya go out (this comes into play more in the bar scene then a school scene) in your case he is just trying to get you to date some girl you want nothing to do with.I can tell ya a few things on top of this .....sometimes the less attractive girls are the best ones to be with, a lot of them have a better personality and are better people.its quality, not quantity that counts, Iv played the game both ways going for higher numbers of girls and going strictly for the best girls, quality won every time.If you date this girl just because someone told you to its going to suck.Of course there was another lesson I learned...everf read the ugly duckling?there was girl pretty plain looking in high school that asked me out and I told her to piss off that she wasn't good enough for me.about ten years later she married a guy I worked with and I had no idea it was her, after work one night the carpool stopped at the bar and we called his wife to come pick us up and drop everyone off at home.I didn't recognize her but she knew me. She was fucking hot! no more too skinny girl with braces and acne and short short curly hair. she was god damned hot and from talking to my buddy she was a pretty damned good person besides. She remembered me and left my ass there, I walked home from the bar, about 2 miles shit faced drunk, got picked up for public intox (still better then a DUI ) and spent the night in jail, hung over. Gae me some time to think about what an asshole I was.Think about that before you treat her like shit, you don't want to go out with her ? fine but be decent to her.
Yes think about what a decent person would do? Your motivation in matters really does count. It will tell you what kind of person you really are.
dont eva let ppl pressure u into stuff!i know this from experience, the only times ive done sumthing really stupid ive regretted later is when i let sum1 else deside stuff 4 me.dont go out with sum1 ur not into, thats not fair on the girl is it if ur just kinda leading her on. and i kinda sounds like hes liveing through you. he needs 2 get out and get his own life instead of trying 2 control yours!
well not necessarily i mean if he goes out with her knowing full well he has no intention with her than yes thats using and thus is wrong but if he didnt know or wanted to know her better thats what a first date is for that way he can make a conscious decision whether he likes or does not like that girl whilst "running interference" and it could be his gfs friend pressuring you through him
You don't like her? Don't go out with her. Your friend is pressuring you? Tell him to either quit it, or fuck off, you'll get a girlfriend when you're ready.
fireman, well said!i think ur makeing ur situation more complicated than it really has 2 b
Just tell him your not ready for one...you cant just go out on a whim looking for some random girl to get a piece of you know what. You got to actually like the person before you even think about wanting to ask them on a date. Getting a gf isnt your first priority so just tell your friend to stop bugging you about it. Its stupid that hes pressuring you like that, he thinks having a gf is so cool or something? Its ok, take your time
