About a girl

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me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 7 months and yesterday I asked her if she thought differently about me after we had sex, she said yes. She asked the same question and asked how i felt when iam with her, I told her it felt kind of weird being around her, she agreed. Then I asked her if she wanted to break up with me, she was hesitant to awnser then it came... She said "I do want to, you could do so much better then me, iam nothing, I dont feel to good. I got to go" then later on I met her again and held her for about a hour and 25 min, not a word spoken, then I asked if she really wanted to break up with me. She said no... i was just feeling down. I asked her what was wrong, she said "nothing". I asked her what was wrong with me, same reply, i asked her if I treat her good, she said "yeah". i dont know if she just told me what I wanted to hear because she was under pressure so did she just have a bad day and said something stupid or really ment it? TIPWhen I asked her if she really wanted to break up with me, she was hesitant to awnser but gradually said yes.I asked her if she really ment what she said, she said "no, i was just feeling down" what would yous think?

hmmm well ive noticed that girls say things like that to take the pressure off of them. In other words, they want to break up with the guy, but ask them if they want to break up with them instead. But without knowing much about ur gf its hard to say. But in general, i would say it sounds like she isnt happy

We need to know more about her situation to give any advice. We can only give speculation without knowing about what is going on with her,Here is my advice. Talk to her really know what is going on in her life. Then use that and figure out what is wrong. Look and see if you guys have any Monotony going on in the relationship. Those are good starter points.

Well walken i agree with talking too her. But if his girl is like a girl i used to date that will be hard. Certain girls just brush everything off and never want to talk about their feelings. its really odd but ive been noticing that about some girls

^yup, thats how she is

Of course many guys are like that too.

From the little we have to go on, I think this relationship may still be good, but there are problems that needs discussion. Both sides seem unhappy.

well you have to approach it in the right manner. It is not simply talking about her feelings. You do not want to ask how are you feeling or anything like that b/c that can imply to her that something is wrong with her. Ask her what the day was like and just be very sweet about it. Be like a male praying Mantis trying to mate with the female, very carefully. You want it just to be a nuetral conversation not a conversation to figure out problems. You need to outsmart her if she is being hesitant. Later she will appreciate it.

In reply to: Be like a male praying Mantis trying to mate with the female, very carefully. LMAO. nice analogy, that killed me. Props to u my friend. But i just always found it dificult to talk with her when she is like that. She doesnt even want to talk at all. I fear that is what the op's girlfriend is like. How can he get past that?

okay... we both lost our virginity to eachother in the beginning of january, she says she loves me, i say i love her, we stopped being shy about 5 months in.... ask and i'll awnser

well what is she really like. I mean how do you two act, do you go out on fun dates or is it same old stuff. You need to have fun. Do something to get her in a good mood before you ask her what you or you two can do to make things better or to ask if she wants something out of the relationship.

i live on a reservation so were basically doing the same old stuff, hanging out in the school washrooms after school hours, laughing and talking

well you can make it special. You just have to be really really creative.