I am getting ready to marry my fiance and we are currently trying to decide dates and plan a wedding and that has lead to speaking about our needing or not needing a pre nup. this launched us into research for what we really care to include and exclude in that document.We were looking inot whats standard for a pre nup and came across THIS It is by far the most fucked up insane thing I have read.In that spirit I decided to share it with you lucky people incase you may of missed it.
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Pre-nup agreement.
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Just read through those rules, talk about crazy! Sounds like something you'd write up for a mail order bride or something! Talk about fucked up!
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I didn't read that, but I always think a prenup is something that should be done. One in two marriages end in divorce. It's better to decide how things will be managed when you're in love then when you're not.
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No its not but I fcame across that while searching for standard pre up agreements to look over to make it easier to start writing ours up before having My attorney go over it.
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In reply to: One in two marriages end in divorce. That's a very common statistic, but a false one. It was derived at by comparing the number of people who get married in a particular time frame to the number of people who get a divorce in that same time frame. The problem is that it doesn't account for the majority of people who got married before that particular time frame began, and stayed married. Therefore, the actual divorce rate is much lower than 50%.
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Wrong or right statistics, we both have been thru one marriage and one divorce before we found each other. We have no plans of divorce but its just a smart thing to do. Iv worked my ass off setting up my life and am in the middle of opening a new buisness that she is helping with. If it goes shitty and this takes off things need to be set now for how its handled. We both had long drawn out court battles on the last one and niether of us want that again. We have no plans of it not working but you never know what the future holds.If either of us actually thought it wouldnt work out we wouldnt do it to begin with. Ther is also family hierlooms on both sides that we dont want shit happening to and its just easier to set that shit up while you two are on great terms.
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Sounds like you're doing a wise thing.And if you can get beyond the possible feelings of "oh crap we're preparing for a divorce we want to never happen", the process could actually be helpful for your marriage. Working together on something that's important, compromising, getting through something difficult, that sort of thing.Good luck.
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I agree with Damien! It would save alot of hassle! Plus, it might actually hold your marriage together in some tough times because everyone REALLY knows what they stand to lose...Sometimes, your married to someone you really dislike, until you work through it. Someone once told me that marriage is something you do when your in love, and it holds you together when your not, until you fall in love again....somehow, pre-nups, sound like they will help with that philosophy to me.
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We are past that fpoint, we plan on this working we just have both been burned with messy court battles and this time decided if it happens then we will have it done already when we were on better terms instead of when you hate each other witha passion and the sound of anothers voice makes you want to retch up your breakfast.We have been living together now for about a year and a half, that first year is normaly the worst part and for us its been a great year. I do however thank you for the wishes of luck. If we can ever get shit set up date wise and family wise Ill let you all now when I am actually going to get married
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Chance…Dude, I think per-nups have a place...Sometimes they need to used and other times they don’t. If you guys are worried about things because of past marriages, them by all means write one up but remember that what was hers before you tied the knot and what was yours before you tied that knot need to be listed…Things purchased together should be handled on a piece by piece basis…. Consider this agreement as a base line to fall back to when and if it falls apart….These things were written up so parties with established family inherited money could not be taken or given to the other party if the marriage was dissolved….Think it thru and read it several times. Once you sign it, it’s harder to go back and redo it….
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I'm in favor. I offered to sign one for my current hubby. He declined saying he didn't have anything really and what he did have I could have 1/2 of.