This is a bit complicated thing so I'll try to sum it up.
There's this guy I'm supposed to see on Friday. (He's not a boyfriend, I'm not sure what we are.) I'm pretty sure we'd have sex, since there will be no one else around and we've done other stuff before...
I've totally been looking forward to this, it'd be my first time. I'm a bit nervous, but in a good way. He's quite expirienced and sertainly knows knows how to pleasure me. And how to treat me well on my first time.
None of the above is actually the problem. It's my menstrual cycle that isn't stable even after 4 years. And now my period decided to come about a week early; it started now on Monday, when on Friday I'm supposed to be having sex!
I did not ask for that, thankyouverymch!
I kinda remember reading that you can have sex while on period, but it still does sound quite strange to me. How, if in any way, does it affect the situation or the act or something? anything?
Maybe it isn't a big deal? but I never did think I'd lose my virginity while on period, so it just seems weird.
Oh just one more thing (that has actually no connection to the problem). I'm 17 and he's older. Considerably, but not hideously so (not +10 to me). The age difference isn't an issue either since we both comprehend and accept it.
If someone would have some comments, own expirences or just words of encouragement, they'd be very appreciated.
I know I gave you guys way too much info here, but it feels good to know someone will read it.
Finally now I'll quit rambling and just wait for some responses (and they don't even have to have anything to do with the "problem", anything goes really).
Sex during period?
This is a bit complicated thing so I'll try to sum it up.
Are you sure you want to lose your virginity? This isn't something to take lightly. About having sex on your period, make sure as always you use protection. You can get pregnant while on your period. There are many guys that do not prefer to have sex while a woman is on her period. Quite honestly I doubt that you would want to lose your virginity while on your period. It's always weird the first time and having your period won't help. If you do decide to go through with this he needs to be aware that you're on your period. Don't just let him find out by surprise.
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Many people avoid sex during the period, because it's messier. Blood is likely to get on the sheets, and some guys freak out at the idea of menstrual blood on their penis (though that shouldn't be an issue with a condom on). If you have a tampon in until just before, it's not so messy, but then there's often the opposite problem that the vaginal walls are dry and not lubricated enough.
Amanda is right. You should wait. From my personal experience... it was pretty nasty and gross when we did it and she was having her period. It just happened to happen on her heavy flow day......I wasn't able to perform any oral sex her and I ended up being covered in the brown /red gooey, stinky mess. It was just smelly and nasty and I wouldn't do it again....
Wait until you can really enjoy the full experience of having sex for the first time. He'll understand. Just tell him the truth and plan for the next time....
Good luck and let us know what you decided to do...
My bf and I have sex on my period and it's really not that bad at all. Aside from the fact that you gotta put some sort of a "sheet protector" under you, and that i'm a bit more tender - it's all the same. We just hop in the shower afterwards to clean up.
To the original poster, if i were you, i'd wait to lose my virginity to someone I truly love...it's a bonding moment and I wouldn't want to regret it because it wasn't emotional. Again, that's me, it's your call in the end, but my advice is take your period coming early as a sign!
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Ok, you say you started today, Monday. Well by Friday you shouldn't be to heavy, your flow right?
But loosing your virginity is a big deal and you may want to wait until you are not bleeding at all. Some girls, while on their period, have sex but it feels different. I am one of those girls. I will have sex while on my period, but it isn't as enjoyable as when I am not on it.
So by doing it your first time on your period, well it probably won't feel that great anyway, it does hurt, so I don't know.
But if I were you, I would wait until I was off my period that away he can pleasure you more, if he goes down on you, he may not do it while you are on your period. You should be careful.
Make sure you are 100% sure you want to loose it and want to loose it to this guy.
Thanks for all the responses.
I really do want to start having sex (with this guy), and as I said I have been thinking about it for quite a while now.
No, I don't love him, but the idea of him being the first feels good to me. Oh, and I hate to say "lose" my virginity, because I don't think I'm loosing anything, it's more of an exchange to me. I don't see how the first time is such a big deal to everyone, I don't see it as such an important step in my life. (Of course it is a big one, but not something that will define you in any way.)
I am also aware of the need for protection; we didn't go through with it earlier beceuse neither had condoms around. But thanks for reminding anyway, not all teenagers know if it's really needed.
By Friday my flow won't be heavy anymore, but I think I'll tell him we're gonna have to wait till it's all over. I'm a bit disappointed, but I do believe it'll be neater and otherwise better when I'm not on the periode. As most you you said, it can be messy and somehow more strange, and I think I do not want that.
I guess I'll just talk to him and we'll see how it all goes.
It'll be ok. Thanks again for replying! You pushed me to the side I was already leaning on.