I totally get where you are coming from, however attraction to another man, for example is more than just looks, so surley a blind man would be attracted to another man in the same way a sighted man would be, but without the initial looks attraction...............
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Blind people and sexual orientation
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But what tells the blind man that the other man is infact a man atall? Of course he knows the guys a man, but physically all he has to go on is the guys voice. So what about a woman with a deep voice? Will he be attracted to her?Man its so hard to imagine living without sight.
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**As a sighted person the hardest thing in the world is to try and imagine what it must be like without sight. I spent months seeing things with and without sight (if that makes sense) so i could teach my daughter as she grew up everything she needed to know, like the sound of the washing machine for example, talking to her all the time as a baby so she knew where i was, the sound of the kettle, birds everything. and trying hard to describe everything in details that i know she will understand, for instance, you say dog to a child and they know what one is, you say dog to a blind child and they have no idea, I have spent years explaining, making sure she gets to feel, smell and taste everything in order for her to have a visual image that she can work with and understand, for example what a dog is. I even spend a lot of time out in town 'feeling' at the raised letters of signs etc, so that when she is older she will be able to get around...........its really really hard, being a parent is hard enough but having to bring up a blind child is even harder, not to mention the heartbreak i have when i see her with her cane, and banging into things :frowning:
Saying all that, its been the most amazing thing in the world to have her, she is always so happy and inspires everyone she meets, shes amazing. **
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Thats wonderful. I'm sure becuase of your effort and love she will loves a very happy and fullfilled life.
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sorry i waffled and went off topic
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Oh you had better be sorry!!!
haha nahh its all good :smile:
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Well since sexual orientation is not truly about looks, it actually more of an emotional thing.
For gay men in general, it's not about the penis that makes us homosexuals, it's the emotional attraction to other men that makes us homosexual.
Now I am not saying there is not a physical attraction to other men, because of course there is... but it's not the main point of being homosexual.
So because it's an emotional attraction more so the physical attraction that determines sexual orientation, it's pretty easy for a blinde person to determine their sexual orientation.
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About a year or so ago an ex-girlfriend (now best friend) set me up on a date with a blind man, who of course was gay. He was a great guy but we just didn't click. But on the date we talked and one of the things we talked about was sexual orientation and such. He said he knew he was gay from a very young age and it had nothing to do with the penis or even anything physical. Instead he said he also had more of a connection emotionally to men and as he got older he also realized that the emotional attachment he had towards men was turning into sexual attraction as well. But it was the emotional attraction that let him know he was gay.
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sorry i waffled and went off topic
That was a great waffle!
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AGREED YOU KICK A$$! Big hugs!
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I wish I could give you a great big bear hug!You have gone thru and been thru a lot. You children are lucky to have such an awesome Mom as you..
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awww thanks guys...........I didn't mean to go on, I just get carried away sometimes LOL funnily enough my daughter got her new cane yesterday, the only blind child in scotland to have a flourescent pink and green striped one..........she LOVES it and now im afraid it will become the pink and green offensive weapon against her brothers big smileIts really great to read such positive posts from people who have known blind people in their adult years and who don't think of them as lower class citizens..............i have met with discrimination already and she is only 9
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hugs I loved your waffle.I am thinking that a blind persons imagination is probably better than any of us. I mean, a definate upside would be if they are sleeping with a man, they could imagine it is Vin Diesel. And the woman could be Angelina. Touching/feeling would also play a big part. I know my man wispering and breathing in my ear is enough to get me going.
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in bed with vin and angelina, can you imagine, is it hot in here or is it me???...........whispers in lisa's ear and kisses her neck
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Ladies, please!
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Scotland? Why did I think you were in England? Okay...I know...cause we lousy Americans see "UK" and automatically think England. Well, actually, here in Kentucky we think University of Kentucky, then England.I actually live just a couple blocks from the Kentucky School for the Blind. As such, I've had opportunity to interact with blind folks quite a bit. On several levels, from customer to friend. I even had a part-time gig once reading textbooks on tape for blind students. Here's the funny thing...There's also a large deaf community here. I've interacted with that community quite a bit as well. But is just seems to me that the blind folks, as a whole, are less bitter toward "seers" than deaf folks are toward "hearers". Wonder why that is? Any clue Angel?
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Damien: I'm actually english, living in scotland if we have to get down to it LOL I can't imagine why deaf people would be more discriminatory than blind people, maybe its something to do with seeing peoples faces, seeing the world around, whereas blind people don't see all the bad faces, horrible things etc....... nah that sounds stupid LOLWhich do you think, having had experience with the two, is the most disabling, deafness or blindness? Im not putting you on the spot, just interested to know what you think hon
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Wow. Good question. I"ve thought about that actually, in terms of would I rather be blind or deaf. I really don't know. I can't imagine living without music, so I would hate to be deaf. And to not be able to hear my 2-year old nephew say "Unca Demmin, you want pancake?" Wow. But at the same time it seems like most of the skills and knowledge and stimuli that we depend on to get by in life are visual. I just wonder a lot how blind folks fight/overcome feelings of paranoia cause they can't see what's in front of them.I dunno, Angel. This is sort of an off the cuff answer, and I don't want to belittle anyone's disability, but I honestly think that blindness would be the most disabling. That's why I marvel at the blind folks around me who are overcoming and getting it done...with stellar outlooks and attitudes.How would you answer that question?
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For me as a sighted person, i get so much information from my eyes, the surroundings, peoples moods etc etc, that to be without sight for me would be terrifying, I hate wandering around the house in the pitch blackness, reaching out and the nightmare of touching someone that i couldn 't see. For me, safety is a huge thing for my daughter, we are hoping she will have a german shepherd guide dog, we had shepherds before my man became allergic to them! It terrifies me to think of her walking the streets alone, vunerable, and not being able to see dangers, people hanging about etc..............I would want to see the sunset, the dolphins, my families faces........plus there are very few childrens films with narration, but there nearly every DVD etc has subtitles.....I think it would be easier to live in the world being deaf, than blind, for me personally..............but both disabilites bring with them there own hardships.
