Sperm v.s. Precum

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@ab Welcome to A2A. What's done is done, but pulling out is not an acceptable method of birth control. Many babies have been conceived that way. For pregnancy to occur, there must be a meeting of your sperm and her egg. From what you wrote, I would guess that your sperm was present and was deposited inside her. The only real question is whether or not she was ovulating, which is the release of the egg, and that usually occurs around the middle of her cycle. If she is on a 28 day cycle, for example, that would be about 14 days after her last period. Keep in mind that sperm cells, properly protected in her body can stay viable for several days.

Notice that I have said "about" several times. There is no way to pin this down to an exact day because there are variables that have to be considered.

You don't indicate how old each of you are but, unless you are prepared for a pregnancy, you might consider getting her to look at Plan B. This is an emergency contraception that must be take within 72 hours after unprotected sex, and the sooner the better.

Going forward, either she should be regularly taking birch control or you should be using a condom, or both.

I don't mean to appear to be coming down hard on you, but you could be in some serious trouble, and only time will tell.

@ab I realized that I didn't answer your first question. Usually you will not feel precum coming. Its purpose is as a lubricant. Normally it does not contain sperm cells, but it can if you have recently ejaculated and have not flushed out your system by urinating.

As you have seen, semen can come so quickly that you don't have time to do anything about it,

thank you for the answer ... she is 44 and i am 51 she was about 12 days into her cycle guessing but close . She is taking probiotics and other things for her health.

@ab i didnt think you were coming down hard on me.

@readytogo one more thing her last cycle was only 3 days i dont know if that is a factor or not

@ab I assume that you meant that her last period was only 3 days. Does that also mean that it is irregular? If so, that makes predicting the fertile days in her cycle all the more difficult. 12 days into the cycle would normally put you pretty close to the middle--the most fertile days.

it was shorter its usually 5 to 7 ..and they have been coming earlier in the past months .
she was fighting a cold at the time. One thing that it makes me wonder is if it was a cycle at all and maybe 1st trimester bleeding. She had been having protected sex before that cycle. with someone else.

@readytogo I guess it really doesnt matter time will tell i saw that 3 day periods can also be 1st trimester bleeding. so you may have already been pregnant from someone else but they were using condoms

@ab said in Sperm v.s. Precum:

may have already been pregnant from someone else but they were using condoms.

I'm confused. How could she have been pregnant if they were using condoms?

@readytogo c uz they are not fool proof....

@ab how right you are, but certainly better than no contraception at all.