myself in most cases i dont think you should burden your issues on other people,
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Who do you turn to?
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My hubby. He knows me inside out and will always seems to make the problem seem workable or better. I talk to my best mate too who is a star so I guess I am pretty lucky
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I'm with her, best friend and definatly praying
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I just bottle it all up inside and then lash out at some innocent bystander. I am quite un-emotional when it comes to people.I think that spilling your emotions/problems to someone is a sign of weakness. You should be able to deal with anything and everything on your own.
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**a sign of weakness? personally i think thats a load of bull! It takes far more strength of character to admit how you feel and deal with emotions than to just ignore them. How can you say you deal with it, if you lash out at innocent people?? **
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If you can't deal with your problems on your own I think that you are not as strong as someone who can. If you can only deal with problems when you have to turn to someone then what happens if you don't have that resource anymore.You’re screwed.You won't be able to deal with something.I see it like smoking. People addicted to something/can't function without it. If they don't smoke they go skitzo and GENERALLY don't function as well. Therefore someone who doesn't smoke wouldn't have to worry about that.(I am using smoking as a comparison because it is a common addiction, I don't want a load of smokers on my back!)Mr. Nuts
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I do understand where you are coming from hon, i went through a long time 'coping' with all kinds of shit on my own, however, i was in a bad place and talking to someone could have, in fact would have helped a lot.Your post made it out that people who turn to others are weak, and i disagree, sometimes its just good to have someone to lean on.
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If i can get advice i do. Hence why i come to this website. I do agree, it is better to get as many different points of view which you possible can so you can make the right choice. But i do like being independent. I would never allow myself to be reliant on anything. I would hate having to need something. Mr. Nuts
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Do you think that, its more of a male thing to be like that or what, do men more often than not keep things in, and not discuss them for 4 hours on the phone to 6 different people like us ladies do LOL
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Definitely a male thing. I keep everything in, some say that’s a bad thing, but it works for me. I just think that if I tell everyone my problems then they will be just looking for something in that to screw you. e.g. i told a friend of mine that there was this girl which i was after, they went and told her and nothing happened because she was annoyed that i didn't ask her personally and she thought it was childish to get someone to do it for me. Her friends were telling her that I was too young anyway. I am only a year younger than her. I DIDN'T ASK FOR HELP IN THE FCUKING FIRST PLACE.If I had just kept things bottled up and did things my own way and her friends had just kept their gobs shut I could have done alright.That’s why I don’t really like turning to people. Why should they know any better than yourself.Mr. Nuts
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me noone but all of my friends turn to me i guess im good like that ppl can talk to me and im rele understanding and so on so yeah
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yep i think that turn my boyfriend on too, well at least i hope i do..ew, i dont think i turn my bestfriend on thats like gross.
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That's good, gamerboi, that they can turn to you. Professional counsellors, though, arrange to also counsel each other so they too can get support. People who bear others' burdens need some help themselves.