Need some advice on this one...

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ok, sorry if this is quite long! right, when i started uni i met this guy, who is now my bf, and we clicked straight wawy, then we started sleeping with eachother and hanging out a lot in october. we weren't officially going out but we might as well of been. anyway, at the end of november we both went home for a wkend and i only just found out the other day by accident that when he went home he slept with his best friend. the thing that pisses me off is that same day he slept with her, he txt me saying he really missed me and couldnt wait to see me when we got back to uni. he said that he felt guilty about going behind my back but the way he saw it was that we werent yet official and he was having his last bit of fun before going into something serious with me. he doesnt know i no all this so do u think maybe i should just forget about it because we have something really good now and i know what we've got is serious, or do u reckon i should talk to him about it??

''he said that he felt guilty about going behind my back but the way he saw it was that we werent yet official and he was having his last bit of fun before going into something serious with me. he doesnt know i no all this''if he doesn't know that you know - how do you know he feels guilty?

i think thats a real hard situation to be in.

personally i would feel betrayed. i think that if i were sleeping with someone, i would want to have a special connection with them, and i wouldnt want them sleeping with someone else the next night! (which is basically what he did).
however everyone is different.
personally i just would feel betrayed and somewhat cheated, i couldnt trust him in the future.

i mean would u do the same to him?
if you're being treated worse than you treat him, then something isn't right :frowning:

Let sleeping dogs lie. Since you two weren't together at the time its not like he cheated on you.

Thats true.. but it still hurts the same.

Its wrong for a guy to do that if he knows that you guys are going to be getting together. Its just cruel.

wow. may i point out that this is sumwhat simmila to the whole ross and rachel "we were on a break!" thing.netha of u is right or wrong here. yes, u have the right to feel betrayed and like he cheated on u ( i know i would) but technically ur wernt exactly 2gether...if u wanna talk 2 him u should do it cuz its just gonna eat at u if u dont, just try not to take the "im right, ur wrong"stand on it, cuz technically he didnt cheat, tho he should have had more respect for ur feelings

Just the fact that you have posted this message illustrates that you doubt him as a potential partner. Go with your instincts. It doesn't appear like he has much respect for you and a guy who tells you he feels guilty is just trying to gain the sympathy vote.

i agree with the above post! ^^

Oh I know it still hurts the same. I just dont see what good can come from saying "I know you had sex with another girl last year before we became a couple". If she brings this up, she'd better be prepared to discuss both their sexual histories--not that thats a bad thing though.

Good advice right there.