What's wrong with this man???

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I was just tryna add some levity to the situation.. it seemed rather flacid

Hey, Star...

horny's got the best advice I see....know when to do it. I know you want it because he looks sexy to you while he's sleeping, but he's SLEEPING...refreshing the body and mind for the next day.

Here's my suggestion: If you don't already have one, get yourself a cock-shaped vibrator just a little larger than your man's dick. When you get those urges and you don't think he'd be happy with your bj wakeup, start using that vibrator next to him...but don't TRY to wake him up. However, should he wake up, I think he'll be into what you want at that point.

Just a suggestion :grin:

This whole thread seems to have gone a bit crazy.. may put me off posting for a while!

I'm not really crazy....I've been misrepresented by my psychiatrists and the media

Like myself so; isnt it terrible to be misclassified as a loon? Ha ha.

The other dy i posted that " this guy might not be into you" because he rejected you sexually and you kinda beat me up for that.I'm lookin over some other posts and see another one you posted about this guy saying he is lacking in showing you affection and that you 2 are "mismatched"."This morning, for example, I went to give him a hug by way of an apology as I'd been a bit bitchy (am not a morning person) and he just tut tutted and pulled away. This isnt a one-off, it's a regular thing. I just walked downstairs and had a bit of a private cry in the kitchen." I'm not tryna be nasty..really... but look at the facts. There's something wrong with this relationship, he really doesn't seem interested. You guys need to have a serious talk.

I wasnt beating you up, I asked for your opinion and didnt think you were taking the problem seriously (come on - you did say he may have "turned gay" & advised me to find a second lover etc etc!) I thought you were taking the mick and was teasing you in return, we have already had a pm discussion about all this and cleared it up two days ago, so why drag it all back up now? If you were indeed serious in everything you said then maybe you deserved some of the posts from other people who told you to cop yourself on, as if you were serious, then you were very insensitive. (It looks like the insult deserves to still stand - thanks Kiwi!)I dont think rejecting somebody sexually (or in any other way) while you're sound asleep can really count as a genuine example of rejection! And yes, we are mismatched in the affection stakes, but then, a lot of couples are, as the response posts confirmed.He has had some relationships that havent even gotten off the ground because he's just not a huggy touchy person and some women have really not been able to deal with that - so I know this is not behaviour I've been singled out for. It's just an element of who he is that I sometimes have difficulty in dealing with, as I am very much his opposite in that one regard.Now can we put an end to this hard_again, as I dont appreciate having to argue to anybody that my relationship is worthwhiie and valid. I'm unhappy in it about 5% of the time, but afraid2ask isnt here to accomodate me banging on about how great things are the other 95%.

right, back to topic.... hows about you masturbate while hes next to you and if he wakes up to the sound of you masturbating rather than you climbing on top of him he may be a little more willing, especially if he's been hearing you while he's asleep. the subcounscious mind and all that. and at the same time you get rid of some of your sexual frustration. just a thought. take care

I have to laugh. I don't think I have been with a man that did not want to be woken up that way. I myself am a woman that needs her sleep, but anytime the man has wanted to get busy I have always given in. I may resist at first, but I am happy at the end of it. Although, I can fall back asleep fairly quickly.I suggest trying either close to the time he wakes up in the morning or shortly after he falls asleep. And don't make it an everyday habit. Just a once in awhile quickie type of thing. Of course, if he really does not want to do it, you are just going to have to respect him and stick to Saturdays. Or pounce on him in the shower....men look pretty sexy when they are all wet too.

You asked for advise, i gave it. Sorry if it wasnt what you wanted to hear. This is a public forum full of different people with different thoughts, you are going to get different answers, some you might not like, that's life. Perhaps in the future when you post you should tell everyone exactly what they are supposed to say in reply.
Yes some of my replies were foolish, I was just trying to have some fun, thought maybe you could differentiate between humour and a serious reply. I guess not.
This is the last I will speak of this. Flame me all you want for giving you my honest thoughts on the matter, i assumed that is what this board is for.

This is the advice I asked for:"I'd appreciate any men who have similar issues about being 'harassed during sleep' as my boyfriend puts it, to give me a few tips on how a woman could bring them around to their way of thinking!"Not an overall assesment of my relationship, which you are in NO - WAY qualified to make. I'm done discussing this with you. You need to grow up.

Dont they look georgous when they're wet? Yeah honey, you may have opened a whole other can of worms there - the poor man wont be able to have a wash in peace now, ha ha.

Sorry Radeckl, I did clarify that earlier on and dont want to go over it all again, but couldnt blame you if you dont want to read all the way through this wierd-arsed thread!

Thanks (almost) everyone.

In reply to: Yes some of my replies were foolish, I was just trying to have some fun, thought maybe you could differentiate between humour and a serious reply. Seriously, it is sometimes difficult to tell the difference between humour and being serious on the internet. No one can see your face or hear your voice to be able to tell for sure. And generally around this site, we like to offer serious answers to people asking for advice.I think there was just a big misunderstanding in this thread.

I think it started out as a misunderstanding, and in fairness, the original fault I think was mine. It does stick in my throat to hold my hand up, but if that's what's true then that's what should be said..I read over Hard_again's first post and he did say "I mean if this guy works his ass off all day and your not letting him get any sleep I can understand his lack of desire". That is actually the situation. "maybe he's just not that into you" I mistakenly took as a reference to that famous book, do you remember the book titled 'he's just not that into you' that came about as a spin off from that episode of Sex in the City?So I took hard-again's seriousness in jest, and he took my joking f-off replies as serious; so it began as a classic mix-up. As you say we dont have the benefit of facial expressions, tone of voice etc on the internet..Where I took genuine offence was at the recent assertion that "There's something wrong with this relationship, he really dosent seem interested" cause that's just hurtful and untrue. If a man starts work at 6am and spends ten hours on his feet (he's a security guard), comes home, has his dinner, watches telly, has sex then goes asleep, he can hardly be expected to be happy about being woken up again at 2am for round two in the nookie department, especially when he's due back up at the crack of dawn. I know that. I wasnt looking for advice on how to jolt him into life in the early hours of every morning, just how to coerce him every now and then. But I wasnt expecting to be told my relationship was on the rocks either..Anyway, I'm off to put the hot water on so he can have a nice bath when he gets home.. see what you've started Lisa! - I'll just tell him to blame you!

Me?? I am a perfect angel.

HEY thats my title HAHA! actually nah its not kisses lisa

You are a perfectly naughty angel!

well, i dont know about in that particular moment, usually when i use to be woken up i just wanted to go back to sleep wasnt necessarily angry except for the going to school part....so i doubt id mind but yeah it might be different if i were workin my ass off