i know you've probably heard all of this before, but im new to the site and this is the problem that led me here.i find it extremely hard to develop relations ships with girls. i go to an all boys school which doesnt help. in fact it seems to have almost totally alienated me from the opposite sex. when i went to a boys and girls school i was totally fine with girls, you could even say i was pretty good. but now that social skill has almost completely dissappeared and i wanna get it back. its not like im a total hermit, i go to parties and go out with friends, i do have some female friends but it seems like those relationships are really shallow and forced. at parties, instead of talking to girls i just get trashed as an excuse not to. the thing is that im pretty good looking, so im told, and i find that the shy girls that i wanna meet usually find me unapproachable. instead i get these totally intimidating, really confident girls hitting on me. and then these cool, hot, but scary girls find that i havent got more than brief friendship skills and just wanna be friends or not even that. people generally assume im pretty good with the ladies and sometimes even ask me for girl advice. my friends pressure me to make moves n stuff, but i just cant do it. i really want female friendship cos all my friends are getting girl friends and they seem to have a great time with eachother. i want to experience the close, romantic relationships my other friends seem to be having. i just wanna meet a shyish, not stunningly beautiful, fun girl to have a relationship with. any tips for meeting shy girls?
Another guy with girl problems...
You've just lost a bit of confidence in yourself, even though you evidently project confidence. If you can pretend to yourself that it has returned, you'll find it will.If the shy girls find you unapproachable, you have to approach them. Say "hi" and ask them about themselves.
In reply to: shy girls that i wanna meet usually find me unapproachable well i'm not a girl but i am a shy guy and i can tell u this... shy people find everyone unapproachable. especially girls! they scare me. In reply to: you have to approach them. Say "hi" and ask them about themselves. inliguble is right. u'll have to approach them. i like it when a girl / girls come talk to me..it's still scary tho.
I usually try to talk to the shy people a lot, I usually find that they're the funniest or most intelligent. I think I just prefer the quiet type a lot. Since shy people are most likely not going to approach you (hence shy) you have to approach them. I just say hi to them, start a little small talk on a teacher or something similar, very light. Then I start asking their opinions on things to make them know that I want their opinion.
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It's just a fond farewell to a friend-"
I'll just say this: ever seen the movie "Heaven Help Us"? If not, you should. I don't think it can answer all of your questions/problems, but it is pertinent...and one of my favorites.