I have a friend who just told me that she and her boyfriend are using the family planning method of birthcontrol in which he withdraws early during her fertile time and during a non-fertile time frame she lets him go in him.
I find this method to be a little sketch. I haven't been able to find anything online yet to prove that it is, so I was wondering if anyone had any information. I tried mentioning to her that its not gauranteed that you can't get pregnant while on your period. And what if your body releases two eggs in one month, only a few days apart? And what if, even though he's pulling out early, some of the little guys sneak out before he withdraws?
Any input would be greatly appreciated. My friend is 10 years younger than her b/f, and he's ready for the marriage and kids thing, she's not. I'm worried and want to make sure she has all the info and doesn't end up in a situation she doesn't want to be in.
Early withdraw/family planning bc method
A problem with calculating infertile times is that time of ovulation can be irregular, especially in the teens. Another problem is that some sperm can live in moist conditions for several days.
A problem with withdrawal as a method of contraception is that pre-cum leaks out, and it can pick up some spermatazoa on the way. Another problem is that it is easy for the guy to wait too long and be too slow to pull out.
This is a method of contraception that is really only suitable for married couples for whom pregnancy wouldn't be so bad.
The risk of pregnancy is high, for the reasons outlined by Ineligible. Your friend had better be prepared for the possibility.
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the method your friend is using is called the "calender method", "rhythm method", "periodic abstinence", or "fertility awareness" among other things. you can get more information on it here:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fertility_awareness
The basic idea is to calculate when her fertile times are and abstain from sex during those times. there are several different ways of doing this, and the efficacy varies depending on which is used. when used alone the perfect use failure rate is as low as 4%, but typical use failure rate is about 25%.
however, instead of abstaining entirely from sex during her fertile times, she is using withdrawl which means that the failure rates for her will be even higher.
one way is by charting her menstrual cycles and abstaining from sex between day 8 and 19. the biggest problem with this method is that it requires her to have a regular cycle.
other methods detect when she is ovulating. this can be done by taking her temperatue every morning,and/or by checking the consistency of cervical mucus. the biggest problem here is that she can get pregnant from having sex several days before ovulating.
this method may be the only option available to people who have a moral objection to using contraceptives such as some catholics do, but if that is not the case with your friend then she needs to get on birth control. she is using a very high risk method.