Ok this is very wierd to me. I have been with my current bf for close to 2 years now and just recently I wanted to try something new with him and he did it for me. So I was thinking I would ask him if he had any fantasies or anything he has always wanted to do with me and his answer kinda blew my mind. He was a little slow to tell me but he said it would be a huge turn on for me to sleep with another guy while he watched. I asked him if he was trying to eventually ask if he could sleep with another girl using the philosophy "well you did antoher guy" etc., but he was like "no i just think it would be really hot to watch you". I am very confussed by this, what does other people think?
BF has wierd turn on (unsure)
It's not so uncommon. However that doesn't mean you should do it, especially if you're unsure. These things can be much messier in reality than in fantasy.
Damn, that sounds odd to me, I cant imagine watching my girl take it from another guy, especially that turning me on. Different strokes for different folks though.
I don't really see this as downgrading... Just weird. I would never share my guy to anyone, but if it's a turnon for both I dont see why they shouldn't do it. Although if it's something only one person gets turned on by, the other person should really think this through. I can imagine that it could cause some problems to the one who isn't turned on by this...
It may sound like fun, but it often leads to the end of a relationship. If you're with this guy for a long time, do you see yourself still doing it 20 years from now?
<i>Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.</i> -- MLK
If you WANT to, fine. But generally if your not comfortable, it is the wrong thing to do. It could EASILY end the relationship. What if it is a test of your faithfulness?
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -- Theodor Seuss Geisel <br /><br />
Yeah I dunno, I dont think it is the cuckold thing, as I am not a dom type person usually so I can't see him thinking that he is inferior and me not wanting him. We have lots of sex and it is quite enjoyable for both of us. I guess i will have to sit down with him and have a good talk.
I have the same fantasy about my wife, as your boyfriend has about you. I didn't realize how uncommon or irregular it was.
If you don't think the cuckold thing is it, then it most likely isn't. That seems to speak to a very specific sub-group within the BDSM culture. For myself the turn-on is quite the opposite, as I am the dom in our "light" bondage play. For me the turn-on stems from the idea of control. I am allowing this to happen. My sub is doing this for me because she wants to please me. He doesn't matter. That and because I like to watch.
Having said this, in reality, I don't think I would ever want to take our relationship to such a place. Well... I may want to but I don't think I ever would and I'm sure my wife wouldn't. So, it just makes for a nice fantasy.
A weird turn-on, I don't think so, ...unusual...apparently.
There is no punishment. There is no reward. There are only consequences.
It all depends on how comfortable you are doing it. If you aren't comfortable, then don't do it. However, I would advise you and your boyfriend that, if you plan to do stuff like this, sit down and discuss some "ground rules" as to what you guys should and shouldn't do with other people (i.e., kissing another man on the mouth).
<span style="color: red">~~Don't make someone a priority when you're only an option~~</span>
O.P. As turn on or fantisies go, this isn't really that bad..
but as said above, not like u actually have to do it
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there's quite a lot of people who like such things,so it's not weird in the least. another thing that seems to be common is people not discussing and thinking through their fantasies with their partners.
yeah,most things work out great in your head, but that's because it's your head and not someone elses.there could be jealousy issues that arise, diseases, pregnancies...falling in love with the other guy and all kinds of crazy stuff
I do not read advertisements. I would spend all of my time wanting things