Hi people, I've been so busy busy busy and so stressed stressed stressed, I havent had time to check in for a while, but just made this thread to say hi everyone and please wish me luck because I'm on the cusp of something really important workwise here.Have had a quick look around the community forum, will have a look in before the night is out and will join you all again when I've time, xx.(p.s. still holdin out for that pint Bob!)
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Hello thread..
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I was wondering what happened to you! Hope it all goes well! See ya when you get back.
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Well I'm fucking poor right now! Bastard "friend" of mine stranded me in the middle of fucking nowhere tonight and I spent a fortune getting a taxi back home by myself! I'm not a violent man, but damn I'm gonna punch the wanker next time I see him!
But good luck with your work!
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Hey honey, sorry to hear you are that stressed LOL hopefully whatever is on the cards at work will work out......keep popping in to say hello anyway i was wondering where you had gone
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Thanks people! I wont know whether I've got this contract till the middle of february, and have tons of work to be getting on with in the meantime, so fingers crossed big-time. It's my birthday on Valentines day (am going 31 - this feels like the beginning of the slippery slope!!) so I'm hoping the news will arrive on the 14th, that'd have to be a good omen.I'm going to have a look on the relationships forum now and see if anyone is more stressed than I am, maybe I'll be able to do a little bit of good in the world, and create some good Karma for myself into the bargain, lol! x
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Oh, and sorry to hear about your misadventure Bob, lol!
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awww happy birthday for the 14th honey, fingers crossed you get everything you want and as for the slippery slope, nah it just keeps getting better and better hon believe me
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Thanks hun, and you know what Angel, all joking aside, I wouldnt go back to my late teens/early twenties for ANYTHING. Those were the days when I just hadnt got a clue, well, not as compared to the way my head operates now anyway. I just took a serious amount of crap from people, men in particular, in those days that I wouldnt even DREAM about taking today. Isnt maturity a wonderful thing?! lol!
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it sure is hon, however gravity IS NOT!!!!!!
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Give over woman, you'd think we had ten kids between us! (though I know it feels like it sometimes - lol!) Have to go back to work Take care people, x.
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Good luck hun and happy early birthday!
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Oh you'll do fine. So when you gonna join in to quit smoking? lolI thought we were gonna get on with it!
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Pepsi; Oh don't say the S word!!! Have you given it a go yet?
And Lisa; Hey, save the congrats; don't be putting three weeks on me!!, lol Myself and my sister have been abstaining from drink for a little while now and we're keeping the fast going till valentines night, when we're planning to go out and celebrate/commiserate about this next step on my downward journey towards forty, lol!
I have interviews to conduct and transcribe every day this week and 30,000 words to write in the next couple of weeks, so I reckon come my birthday I'll deserve a drink!
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S word, s word, F****** S WORD!!! Grr, been giving it goes for the last 8 months or so! If anyone were to fallow my fight, I bet they would not want to smoke or if they were trying to quit, they wouldn't want to anymore!Gone a few days at a time, then something tips and I just fall back. I am getting better about the days I don't have em, but I have had it for SO long, its like giving up a hand or something I swear, even though it actually frees one up! I made a friend...lol(yep a real friend..hehe) but he is SO supportive! EVERY one I know around me, either doesn't understand because they never smoked, or they still smoke, or they have the "I just set it down and walked away" story. I wish it were that easy. No one I know, talks about how hard it is. I get that from my own experience, and all the tips on the net. OH JOY! So, WHO is blowing smoke up my arse?Anyway, Shawn has been great, I go a day or two, he is giving me the pat on the back that I need, and when I go back, he understands, and just encourages another go. He also shows up and helps me out around my house, so that I have a reason to get up and get going, and not focus on the cravings. My boss/landlord has given me my last warning...if I don't quit I need to move. URGH!!! Flipping ticks me..I can burn incense all day, I can BBQ with briquets and leaves! I managed a bonfire for her that was a 30 foot circle, She leaves her burner on when she leaves.... But cigarettes are a fire hazard to her. WTF? Also, I OWN my trailer, just rent the land...what right.... SSSSOOOOO with that pushy attitude she has, I get a vengeful streak going, and don't want to quit...MAN that makes it SO hard to focus on why I REALLY want to quit. And she thinks I should just stop. Woopee do, I cut down from 20 a day to 2 and she just FREAKED when she smelled one....So what do I do? Go buy three packs and say "take that B****!!!" And just got smarter about hiding it...STUPID! (on her part and mine!)Then I hit flipping depression over not having them for a few days, and become useless. One bill I have to pay TO her...which means working FOR her, and I am like 3 months behind now. I doubt she will ever get it. Maybe this shite needs to go over in the addictions forum....
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My mom quit when she was nearly 50, after having smoked for 20 or 25 years -- a pack a day of Salem menthols. She's one of the "just walked away" cases.It's good that she quit. Near the end of her life she had some breathing issues, but was able to deal with them through on-and-off use of oxygen. Her situation would probably have been much, much worse if she hadn't stopped smoking.Having kids is a good motivation to quit. You really don't want them to have to deal in the future with their mom's smoking-related disease.Your landlord/boss's motivation may be wrong, but it doesn't mean that the idea is wrong. If your landlord insisted that you eat healthy (none of his business either), would you then eat Bic Macs three times a day?Have you tried patches, hypnotism, etc.?
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You sure will deserve a drink or 10! Have one for me honey.
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Originally Posted By: Steve_A
She's one of the "just walked away" cases.
Another one...Great, but it doesn't help with my battle.
Originally Posted By: Steve_A
Having kids is a good motivation to quit..
Just one of many.
Originally Posted By: Steve_A
Your landlord/boss's motivation may be wrong, but it doesn't mean that the idea is wrong. If your landlord insisted that you eat healthy (none of his business either), would you then eat Bic Macs three times a day?
Possibly. I have a hard time with some one telling me what I can and cant do with my own body, and in my own home, especially if it is legal. A whole OTHER issue. A streak of immaturity I suppose. Though I already recognized it and I quote:
Originally Posted By: PepsiChaser
...MAN that makes it SO hard to focus on why I REALLY want to quit. And just got smarter about hiding it...STUPID! (on her part and mine!)
(stupidity acknowledged)Originally Posted By: Steve_A
Have you tried patches, hypnotism, etc.?
First, and best attempt was with patches and antidepressants. Next attempt, just patches, only to develope an allergy. I have tried, chewing tobacco, lozenges, and sheer will. Starfish recommended a book to me...I shall try it soon. Hypnotism is offered here about once a year for about a week. Fairly expensive, and usually very little warning of when they will be here.
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She's one of the "just walked away" cases.> Another one...Great, but it doesn't help with my battle.The idea not to browbeat you or tell you that you're weak, but to remind that quitting smoking is a practical reality. If you were locked up somewhere and couldn't get cigarettes, or if they just disappeared from the Earth, life would go on.> I have a hard time with some one telling me what I can and cant do with my own body, and in my own home, especially if it is legal.That may be a correct and principled position, but it doesn't mean that you then have to hand over your power. That what finding an excuse not to do what you need to do is.Handing over one's power to others is something well worth thinking about.
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Quote:That what finding an excuse not to do what you need to do is.HUH? That looked like something I would type drunk? WHICH by the way is not much of an issue anymore. I am only drinking on the weekends and even then it isn't alot. Remember 15 plus daily down to 3 or 4 drinks, 3-4 nights a week? These are battles I know I fight alone I suppose, and someone butting in, just really pisses me off...More or less, I will lean into my crutches, for fear that if I let go, one of these morons will shove me over before I got a good footing. The deal with the landlord, is the ABSOLUTE lack of support, she gave me a choice of not smoking or not drinking. One battle at a time right? I decided to quit drinking, NONE for 3 weeks. Then she wigs on the cigs tells me that she would rather me drink than smoke. So basically, I said F it. Was back to both pretty heavy for a week. Why try...no matter what I do, I don't do enough...That isn't my REAL outlook on it, it is my reactive outlook. I achieve great things when someone near tells me I can't! Odd eh? It's like a dare.That is why Shawn is so neat, he almost dares me to be better. I love that!
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OK, I dare you to stop smoking.
