hey everyone, im actually still a virgin and im not in any rush to lose my virginity or anything(im actually saving it for love ) But I just thought it'd be good to know some basic sex tips on what exactly im supposed to do with my penis lol.a friend of mine said her first time was horrible because they guy pretty much just "stabbed her" the whole time, didn't move or curve or anything. What sort of movements are good generally? I know it probably varies from person to person, but still i'd like to know just so when the time comes, i have an idea of what to do thanks!
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Tips on sex
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Your friend may have been disappointed because it didn't live up to her expectations. It often doesn't, and that can be because of unrealistic expectations. For many women, getting enough stimulation from sex is difficult, because the clitoris isn't directly stimulated. Your friend seems to think her partner should have known what would work for her, but how would he? Even if he had some experience, women are different. She could have tried taking a more active role, moving more, and suggesting other positions to try, until she found what worked best for her and didn't just feel like being stabbed.A guy who is good at it may also try different positions and strokes, but you need to walk before you can run, and the first times should be taken as joyous learning experiences, not as an Olympic competition.
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Im not exactly A kid lol, maybe in the realm of sex, but not a kid really. Im still very young at 19 for just three days, but not a kiddy so to speak lol.Thanks for the tips though. So i know the Clitoris needs to be stimulated alot, and that many girls actually prefer that to penetration stimulation. But the Penetration is were im very unsure. I don't know much about whats actually inside, and iv'e looked over numerous pics and diagrams to try and find out, but im still a lil confused. Any tips on that would be helpful as well, perhaps a link in the female Genitalia forums would be appropriate for anyone who knows of such a link.
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Actually the question of what's inside and what happens has not been well known. Even the existence of the G-spot has been contentious. And it was only quite recently that a couple had sex inside an MRI scanner and it was discovered that the penis actually gets curved to fit the vaginal tract. That was a surprise, because you can't feel it.The vagina isn't a cavern. It's actually more like a deflated balloon. The penis goes inside it and opens it up as it goes. That's why it is important that the woman be feeling ready (i.e., horny), because then the lining becomes more elastic and it is well-lubricated and nice and slippery. So lots of foreplay beforehand is important.The angle you go in is dictated by the vaginal tract (and, as I mentioned, some curvature is added as well). It's not too difficult to achieve penetration if the woman is ready - you only have to approach the right spot and press in and the system takes over. It can help to have her guide you in. However, when women are nervous they tend to tighten up involuntarily and this sometimes causes a little difficulty at first.
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I would reccomend taking your time. When you begin the act you shouldnt just rush into penetrating her. Foreplay is very important. It helps to relax and stimulate her mentally aswell as physically. One of the most important things for a woman to reach her climax is that she be relaxed. Any time she feels tense or uncomfortable mentally can ruin the entire experience for her. And during the foreplay escapade, try not to stay in one spot too long and move around her entire body. As far as pentrating goes, long slow strokes can finish you off pretty quick. So i would reccmomend starting off with small thrusts so as to get used to it. When you move in during thrusting bring yourself all the way in so you make cntact with her pubic mound. This helps stimulate her. And if you feel yourself gettin close to finishing then try pulling out and moving to another position. This can help your longevity, but also may hinder her ability to reach orgasm. But in surverys i have read, women dont always need to reach climax in order to be happy sexually.
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No worries mate, i'd think i was a kid two judging from the question lol.But anyways thanks to everyone for all the tips and info
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dude!! i just lost mine saturday nite. u will know what to do man. lol. for real i did. but man USE A CONDOM and DO NOT! i repeat DO NOT! lose it to a crazy bitch. i made that mistake :-\
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Yea if/when I do have it, then I will def use Protection, and it will be with someone I love and care about, no one night stands here for me. Passion is a big deal for me, There has to be more than just a physical attraction for actual sex to occur IMO, there has to be something spiritual.
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Originally Posted By: JayDioniYea if/when I do have it, then I will def use Protection, and it will be with someone I love and care about, no one night stands here for me. Passion is a big deal for me, There has to be more than just a physical attraction for actual sex to occur IMO, there has to be something spiritual. actually i think u are talking about making love. lol :P
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Dont build it up too much dude. You might set yourself up for big fall. The first time aint usually that great anyways. And to find a great source for different tips on positions and technique, I usually go to Men's Health Magazine. That thing is great. And sometimes you can even go to Cosmo and find out what kinds of tips women are getting so you can have a head start. Trust me it works.
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Im not going to go in thinking it's gonna be the greatest thing ever but i want it to be special and passionate.