Not wanting to...

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well im new and i want to get pregnate. but my family is scared for me cuz i havent finished school yet and im not sure if i am and my mom made me drink the contreception pill " just in case " and she thought i swallowed it but i didnt, im wondering if i just swallowed the " juice" or saliva of the pill would i be effected?

How old are you?

Being pregnant is a hard thinking process, I dont know how old you are but if yoru in college or high school, WAIT untill your done, make sure you have the money, and the career you want before you have a baby, stupid decisions will ruin your life.

pregnacy is something very serious. it is if not, the biggest responsability that someone can have. once you have a baby you aren't the first priority, but that baby is. think about it really hard about the stupid decision you are going to make!

Isn't it interesting that some people are mature enough to make a baby, but not mature enough to think straight?

We have to have a license to marry. We have to have a license to have a dog, a license to drive, but we just get to reproduce at will. I vote for nor-plant for all girls as soon as they start their periods! Speaking from experience, having a child before you've done everything Helms described is HELL!!

well i am very mature i can tell you all that i have 2 jobs and i have my high school deploma i cant afford college right now, and i dont plan to go either. i have nuthing for my self, i helped and raised family members and im sick of watching them live such happy lil lives that they have. It isnt fare but who said life was fare?.... I understand were everyone is coming from and i know itz hard to raise a child been there, done that, even though they werent mine, but after all that work i did i still want one to hold and love for myself. My boyfriend is 17 and i love him a lot and he wants kids of his own and he wants them soon, i agree with him though cuz mommy is a BITCH and ungreatful of all the things i do in this family, so itz time for me to start my own or at least i think so..

No one is knocking you wanting a family. Why do you need to do it NOW.

Do you live on your own? How about getting married, and doing it right for the kiddos that you want?

My oppinion, as the oldest of four, and the mother of 2, wait, until you are completely on your own FOUR feet. Make sure your man is in there for the long haul, and that the two of you are gonna make it.

If your still home with mommy the "bitch", do you think it wise to expose your children to what you seem to be describing as a bad situation? Not very mature, or well thought out in my oppinion.

And there is the fact that you can't afford college! Kids cost more...get a puppy.

Originally Posted By: pretty _kittyi have 2 jobs and i have my high school deploma i cant afford college right now, and i dont plan to go either.If you work two jobs and are still unable to afford college, then there is no way you can afford to take care of a child. Raising a child is the equivelent of two jobs.Originally Posted By: pretty _kittyi have nuthing for my self, i helped and raised family members and im sick of watching them live such happy lil lives that they have. It isnt fare but who said life was fare?....If you're upset with seeing other people have happy lives, then why don't you go do something that makes you happy? Don't you have a passion for something that you can do and maybe turn it into something better? Yes, life isn't fair, but life will be worse if you give up your life too soon for a baby. Once you have a baby, it isn't about YOU and YOUR life anymore, it's all going to be about that child's life.Originally Posted By: pretty _kittyMy boyfriend is 17 and i love him a lot and he wants kids of his own and he wants them soon, i agree with him though cuz mommy is a BITCH and ungreatful of all the things i do in this family, so itz time for me to start my own or at least i think so.. If your boyfriend is only 17, then he's not even out of high school yet. The last thing a teenager needs or wants is a baby. What he needs is to finish school, and if he really wants to have a family with you, he'll get smart about it and go to college and get a good, stable career to support your family.If you're having issues with your family, making babies isn't how you deal with it. If you live in that kind of enviroment and bring in a baby, then that baby won't have a fair chance for a good home. If you work two jobs, why don't you first start by getting a place of your own?If you want kids that badly, then the best and smart thing you need to do is for you to sit down and plan EVERYTHING. At the situation you are in right now, I highly suggest you wait. You need to be fair with your kids because like I said, it's all about them, not you. What YOU want doesn't matter at all. It's what they are going to need now and in the future that matters.

Everyone here has given you vey good advise. Please think about it very carefully. Having a baby is a lifelong commitment where your child will come first for a very long time.You say your bf is 17, I am assuming you are younger ! No offense and no matter how mature you must feel, but you are a "baby" yourself. Again no offense but I hope you get my meaning. You need to enjoy and experience life, get an education, find yourself first. I have 2 sons and trust me it is very hard work, very rewarding yes, but hard work and I was very lucky, I had a husband and the emotional support of my family and I was 23 when I had my firstborn and 27 with my second.

Hon, seriously i think even considering having a baby this young shows you're not ready for the responsability of having one.Having kids is bloody hard work, rewarding as melissa said but hard, tiring, sometimes pulling your hair out hard work LOL and thats when everything is ok....What if your child was blind, as mine is, or deaf, or handicapped in another way....then what? It just makes things even harder to cope.....Enjoy the life you have with your BF now, live a little before you are tied down with children, they DO put a stop on a lot of things especially in the beginning.

Originally Posted By: ~AngelWitch~Hon, seriously i think even considering having a baby this young shows you're not ready for the responsability of having one.What if your child was blind, as mine is, or deaf, or handicapped in another way....then what? It just makes things even harder to cope.....Such good POINT ! It is hard enough when they are healthy ! but when they are sick it becomes CRUCIAL that you as a parent are old enough and mature enough to handle all what comes with a sick child !!! Remember having a child is for life, you don't have the option of saying "I want to return and get a refund" Babies are not all rosy cheeks and angelic smiles ! Some CRY and are FULLY AWAKE all night (like my older boy did for 1 whole year !!!) Your needs become second to the baby's needs ! LOL SHIT, your needs don't count anymore ! I love my sons to death and would do anything for them, and today, many years later, I don't regret any of it, but there were many times when I just wanted to get down, cry with them and/or pull my hair out ! As you get older and more mature, you will appreciate and enjoy your pregnancy and baby so much more ! So please think very carefully !

I thank everyone for there thoughts and I well think it over!

Thank You.
Too many of us are speaking from experience!

You are welcome :smile: And yes, many of us are talking through experience !