i'm male 18 years old and have been with my girl for around 6 months and we have tried to have sex a few times
but the first time i got an errection and everything
but wen i tried to put on the condom i lost it and the
more i tried to get it back up the limper it went i
didnt tell her but i was nervous having never had sex
before. This has happened since then twice, i think i
put it down to nerves and me not being able ot maintain
the errection. I tried getting her to give me head but
she has never done it before and wen she started it just
ddint feel right and then i started worrying and lost my errection cause i pretty much have no faith in myself
maintaining an erection can sum1 please advise me what
to do as i can masturbate normally and stuff and get /
maintain an errection yet it seems just wen trying to
have sex i loose it
sorry this is so long!!!!
Would really appreciate some advice
that happened with my first g/f its just kinda like you have to mess around alot before hand, like after we actually did it twice i never had the problem again.. i guess it was just nurves..
It's a common problem - you worry it will happen again, and the worry means that it does happen again, and conditioning sets in.
The first thing is to back off and forget about having sex for a while. Instead, do things that please her - stroking and licking and romantic things. With time, your confidence will begin to return, but don't push it, but take things as they happen. Don't expect yourself to be hard, but if you are, enjoy it.
One other thing you can to to help is to practice putting on condoms by yourself as part of masturbation. Otherwise, if you're not used to them, they can have a disruptive effect. But if you're used to them, they can be sexy in themselves.