I'm too good...

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So I lost my virginity last night, and it's with this girl I'm totally in love with, everything's right (except we had decided we wouldn't do it in the backseat of a car, and that's where we were...), and she was a virgin, too.Now, we're goin' for it, and we're doin' great. I'm a 7.5 incher with a girth that takes my entire hand to wrap around, so I was especially big for her first time. We took it slow, but when she got comfortable and it stopped hurting, we really got into it. When I asked her later how many times she came, she said she couldn't say. It was all like a single unending orgasm.Now, this is all well and fine for her, but I didn't get much out of it, suprisingly. I just kept pumpin' away for her, while I didn't think I had come at all. When I finally pulled out because it was 11 and that's the time of my curfew, and I still had to take her home, the condom was pretty filled with fluid. So I'm confused, did I come and just not notice it? Is it all precum and I'm just not orgasming?I mean, no complaints. She's happy I can keep going so long (except she was dissatisfied when she went to give me a blowjob and she couldn't get me off because of my insane stamina), but I was under the impression that with sex, a virgin male shouldn't expect to last long. Guess I'm some kind of mad stallion or something?Please reply, I really wanna know what's up.

I couldn't say. Maybe the big fish on this site could tell you.It doesn't sound like Premature Ejaculation but I think the possibility of precum is bigger

You could have orgasmed and just stayed hard, did it feel like you orgasmed at all? That, or were so nervous that you couldn't come, but just stay hard.

It didn't reel like I orgasmed at all. I felt like I was totally normal the whole time, and it was really odd. I wasn't nervous, either. She had told me before I was big, and that's the only thing that worried me at all. And when we started going and she expressed that she was really liking it, it made me even more comfortable.

It's definitely not PE. I went a good 40 minutes without feeling a single orgasm. Could I have just went right through it and not noticed?

Well i'm bowled out. I'm out of ideas

It's not unusual for guys to take longer at first on real sex, because they are used to the feel of masturbation and real sex feels different.

It is also possible to ejaculate without feeling much, especially after a long time, but the fact that you stayed hard suggests you didn't, unless you are multi-orgasmic. If you haven't stayed hard and been able to keep going after ejaculation before, I'd go with the pre-cum theory.

i'm just glad to hear that you used a protection method.

Thanks, that makes a lot of sense, actually. I usually feel a lot during orgasm, but yeah, can't stay hard much longer afterwards or keep going. Now, we did it again tonight and tried a bunch of different positions (standard missionary, her on top, her on top and facing away, doggystyle [can we change the name of that?], and missionary with both one and both legs up) but we couldn't seem to make me climax. We went for 2 hours. What's up with that?

And to the post after Ineligible, of course we used protection. I love her, I just graduated, and we both want to go to college. If I got her pregnant, I couldn't go to college, I'd have to stay and take care of the kid. So we're being very careful. Also, it's much more fun when I don't have to worry about pulling out or getting/giving STDs. I can be comfortable the entire time.

And to the post after Ineligible, of course we used protection. I love her, I just graduated, and we both want to go to college. If I got her pregnant, I couldn't go to college, I'd have to stay and take care of the kid. So we're being very careful. Also, it's much more fun when I don't have to worry about pulling out or getting/giving STDs. I can be comfortable the entire time.You'd be amazed at all the kids that go into the Contraceptive and Birth Control thread freaked out that they think they got their girl pregnant, We might as well rename it to "omgwtfbbqhax-i've-never-heard-of-a-condom"

Nope, not us. We researched different contraceptives for about two weeks before we even thought about sex. We had done stuff in health class at school, but we wanted to refresh ourselves and make sure we were protected. She was almost on birth control as well, but it's expensive and her parents refused.

But we're getting off topic. I'm trying to orgasm here, please?

I'm glad You're a smart guy, anyway, as far as the orgasming, does it not really feel like anything when you're having sex? If so, you might want to try a thinner condom.

About getting to orgasm, apart from the suggestion of ultra-thin condoms, you could also try refraining from masturbation for some days before. But I think the most effective thing will be experience, as you get used to the different feeling.

I'm not willing to try a thinner condom. I'm already pretty paranoid about the one I'm using breaking. I think I might try that no masturbation thing, though. That could do it. I'll let you know.In the meantime, anyone else got something to try?

So, we just had this huge thunderstorm where I am, and my girlfriend and I wanted to watch the storm, so we went to the place where we first had sex and were sitting there watching the storm and started making out, which eventually lead to a little more than making out, which eventually led to me being glad I had the foresight to pocket a condom on the way out of the house.So she's shy, and she wanted to keep her shirt on, and I don't care. We started going for it with her on top, and she's doing it real slow and I swear, I didn't jerk off for two days (big deal for me) and she had been teasing me all day, and she's doing this thing where she squeezes and I'm getting off track... So I'm totally feeling the orgasm coming......when lights come up over the entrance of where we are. I vividly remember her saying "SHIT, [sabfxdx], IT'S THE COPS! GIVE ME MY PANTS!" I rip off the condom and we probably both put on our pants faster than we ever have in our lives. So the cop comes up to the car, we've quickly clothed, and he's like "What are you guy doing?" We stuck with "watching the storm," because it was our original intention, and he explained that there was a house up the hill that thought we were crooks or something.It was scary as hell, but I guess I wanted to update that we're doin' alright, and that you guys helped out a lot. If you've still got something that might help, keep it comin'. Never know what'll do it for us.

Grr, busybodies like that make me angry.