Is it too much to ask?

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Is it too much to ask to just have someone at least pretend they care...?

I think it might be too much to ask for.

Better still, there are many people who really care.

I don't know about that. I count one

Is it too much to ask to just have someone at least pretend they care...?I guess this answers my question perfectly clear.

Is there something wrong?

What makes tyou think that? [/sarcasm]

Well, what's going?

Everything. Same shit as always, but sometimes it weighs heavier on me than other days....Right now I've narrowed my main worry down to this: I'm the kind of person that people tlak to for some reason, and I seem to have good advice for a lot of people. But right now I'm having to see someone struggle through all sorts of shit, but there is nothing I can do to help that person, and I don't like that feeling.Also, having a lot of people talk to you about their prolems gets you lonely a lot of times....

Actually, if anyone with power could please close or delete (preferrably delete) this thread, that'd be great...

I hate it when I make threads like this. Just gets me more depressed...

Feeling helpless when someone's going through a tough time is a horrible feeling. And it really takes a toll on your mind. But the least you can do is just be there for someone when they do need your help. Whether it's a quick word of advice or support, if they feel they can come to you with trust and understanding, then you really have more than you thought.It may make you feel lonely when people ask you for advice but know that you are doing a really good thing and you should feel good about yourself. You do give good advice, but I wish you didn't feel like you're alone. You know there's at least one person who cares about your wellbeing.

Feeling helpless when someone's going through a tough time is a horrible feelingEspecially when it's partially your fault thhat things are the way they are now...> But the least you can do is just be there for someone when they do need your helpBut I'm starting to wonder... it's a situation that's unfixable, so does she really need/want my help? I'm starting to think I'm not needed anymore...> but know that you are doing a really good thing and you should feel good about yourselfI do know that I'm doing something good, but it doesn't make me feel good about myself. I just think about what other people tell me and make myself grow as a person based on that. I think that's why I might have the perfect advice for people (which I seem to have more often than not).Which is why it hurts even more to see her struggling right now.... she trusted me one day a few weeks/months ago, and I think I gave her the wrong advice. Everything would've probably been different now if I had just told her to turn Left instead of Right on that road.... she might not have to struggle like she does now, and she might have been happy for the first time in a long time.... that's all I really want.> You do give good advice, but I wish you didn't feel like you're aloneSometimes I think that to be able to give good advice, you have to be lonely.> You know there's at least one person who cares about your wellbeing. :)Yes, but it's tough when that person lives in a totally opposite timezone (half-way around the world) and you barrely ever have time to talk to the only person who might remember your name after you die...

I am not on nearly as much as I used to be, but still pop in from time to time. What your going through is tough, but you have to remember, advice is just that, advice. Who ever you gave it too, had the choice to take it or leave it. It isn't your fault what ever is going on. We ALL have decisions to make, and she made one, you didn't MAKE it for her. Even in unfixable situations, a shoulder can make it more bearable. You may not be able to help per say, but you can be that shoulder.

Especially when it's partially your fault thhat things are the way they are now...Pepsi's right, it's not your fault. You can not control the choices your friend makes, but whatever happens, you and your friend will have the opportunity to learn from it.But I'm starting to wonder... it's a situation that's unfixable, so does she really need/want my help? I'm starting to think I'm not needed anymore...If she still continues to go to you for help, then she obviously does wants your help. You may not be able to fix what happened but you can still change what happens in the future.Which is why it hurts even more to see her struggling right now.... she trusted me one day a few weeks/months ago, and I think I gave her the wrong advice. Everything would've probably been different now if I had just told her to turn Left instead of Right on that road.... she might not have to struggle like she does now, and she might have been happy for the first time in a long time.... that's all I really want.Don't play the "What If" game in your head. It will only make you feel worse. You know that you can't change what has already happened. But like I said, you at least have the power to change what will happen tomorrow and on. She may not be happy now, but I'm sure that she appreciate what you are doing for her now. And maybe sooner or later, she will find the happiness she deserves and have you to thank for helping her stand on her feet.Yes, but it's tough when that person lives in a totally opposite timezone (half-way around the world) and you barrely ever have time to talk to the only person who might remember your name after you die...But that's a lot better than absolutely no one, right?

Who ever you gave it too, had the choice to take it or leave it.That is true, but she obviously trusted me to make that one decision for her (which way to go, left or right) and I definetely chose the wrong one...> Even in unfixable situations, a shoulder can make it more bearable. You may not be able to help per say, but you can be that shoulder.So I should continue to be there for her whenever she needs it, knowing it won't change a damn thing? That makes it seem to me like I'm helping her be miserable. If me helping her makes it more bearable to be miserable, then why should I help?> Don't play the "What If" game in your head. It will only make you feel worse. You know that you can't change what has already happenedI know... but I still wonder how different everything would be if I had told her to go left instead of right...> you at least have the power to change what will happen tomorrow and onI don't follow you here.> And maybe sooner or later, she will find the happiness she deservesI truly hope so... as long as one of us eventually finds happiness, that'd be great.... obviously it won't be me, so it's on her...> But that's a lot better than absolutely no one, right? :( It's close, but I guess it's better... but almost the same as if it was no one...When I'm on the computer, I know there is someone out there who cares. However, evertime in not at the computer, there is no one to go to or to call, or hang out with...Makes me wonder how many people out there are on their own and have NO ONE who cares for them...

A lot, both young and old.Exactly, which makes the whole thing even more fuckde up...

but the beauty of human nature is our ability to careI wouldn't call it a beauty, but it does seem to be human nature to care at least some degree.> we can not only find someone that cares about usWho is "we"?> How are you today?Same as always, really.

Quote:> you at least have the power to change what will happen tomorrow and onI don't follow you here.I meant that you can help her lessen her sadness by just being there for her when she needs you. Maybe to you, it doesn't seem you aren't doing anything but maybe to her, it's helping her a great deal. I don't see how she could be better off if you just left her and her suffer all alone.

_Who is "we"?
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You..me.. anybody.