I don't know if many of you recall me, but I think I wrote a long post a long time ago during the summer about meeting up with someone for lunch (hopefully it won't be that long now), but as I was saying...I've been seeing this guy since the end of July and he just recently broke up with me on Labor Day, for now -- he said we're taking a break. We only went out for a month, and it has been a month exactly since the break-up, too.
The thing is, for about a week or two, we tried to hang out as friends, and well...that didn't turn out too well so he said that we should stop hanging out for a while...but get this...
Is it weird that he likes to call me like 2 to 3 times a day still, even though he doesn't want to hang out with me? He recently got his own phone, he had pre-paid before so part of the reason why we didn't talk much when we didn't see each other was because of that.
I don't usually call him, it's always him calling me. I mean, I like talking to him...I just don't know. He wants to see other people. One of the reasons why he broke up with me was because I guess he didn't feel like he liked me anymore for some reason and wanted to date other people; for those that don't know, I was his first girlfriend ever. Also, he makes this a big factor as well...that I'm 5'3 and he's 6'4 and likes taller people, heh.
Anyway, I was just wondering if it seemed weird to anyone else that an ex doesn't want to hang out with you for a while, but he'll call you several times a day just to talk. My other friend calls me as much, too, but she's a girl, so I guess I'm trying to treat him like her, but a guy, I dunno how to explain it. Both of them usually call me whenever they're walking somewhere or on their way to class, lol.
I guess we're on a break now, but I hope he gets out of the "I like taller girls," phase because I mean...I as well wish he was a bit shorter, but I didn't let it bother me that much.
Question...about after the break-up
Tell him you met a guy recently, just make it up, and see how he reacts.
I agree with Helms though, cut him loose, and don't take him back, ever.
part of me does want to ignore him all together...the only people i've truly ignored in my entire life were my other two exes. and it took them both a while to get the picture.
i have a hard time ignoring people, but my last ex (really first ex who i bumped into after not having seen him for a whole five years) who tried to be friends with me, really pissed me off when he actually got with my other friend while trying to be friends with me, and at the same time, he has another girlfriend that never knew about anything. so that was the last straw. he called me like a few times and i ignored all his calls then all of a sudden he finally got the picture and stopped calling me...he still occasionally calls my friend, but she never picks up his calls either.
the thing is, the reason why i'm still talking to my most recent ex is that i really want to be friends with at least one of my exes. i don't know why. i mean, i have never been friends with any of my exes and just want to see what it's like after all that, and can still hang out.
i asked him if he has found anyone yet, or rather, he just tells me anyway...he's been making a lot of friends who are girls...and then he said one of his friends ruined it for him to hook up with some chicks and i was thinking good.
i even told him how i went out 'n stuff and quite a few guys tried to get with me but i brushed them off cuz i knew what they wanted and that's not what i wanted, especially.
i just hope he doesn't find anyone just so he realizes what a big mistake he's made. i know this is bad to say that, but i really hope he doesn't find anyone at all and people won't give him a chance...he did tell me there was this girl that was 6'2, so i don't know. but knowing my horrible luck (curse, whatever ya call it) with thinking that about guys, he will find some one, probably.
sigh...i just don't want him to be another ex who i won't run into until five years later, i guess. i could tell that if we haven't gone out with each other so soon, he would have made a good friend. :-/
i wish i wasn't his last "option" and just because i was his first girlfriend ever, i wish he wouldn't think that i'd be the one he'd end up with after not having dated anyone else or not being able to find anyone else...he just turned 21 so he's had years to find other ppl, but he told me he was shy back then, oh so now after i give him some "confidence" or whatever u call it, he wants to see other people.
i know brothers date differently...but he has this brother, two years younger than him, who's been going out with this girl for like a year and a half and she is his only girlfriend ever, too, and he doesn't seem to have a problem with that.
my ex said he didn't want his first relationship to be a serious one. supposedly, he used to really like me a lot, too...really, i wanna know how do feelings just all of a sudden go away for some one...i don't get that. i mean, there were times i doubted my feelings weren't there, too, but over all, after i thought about it, i still like(d) him, heh.
yeah, this is true...when we were at the gym there was a volleyball team there and he was checkin' them out "jokingly" and i was like whatever, so i pointed to some built guy right in front of me who couldn't see me, hah.
the funny thing is, the night he broke up with me, his friend told him to do it, and he said for some reason he wasn't happy with me anymore either before that and wanted to break up earlier, but didn't i guess he didn't until that night, and that was also the same night he found out i was on my period =/
not that there's any significance to what i'm about to say but he still has a pair of my sunglasses (i have two, but i do want my other one back even if it's only $5), and i keep askin' him so when's he gonna give it to me...and then he was like, i'll keep it as a souvenir...and i said...right...oooook...well i know i'll still get it back, but i can't just go over there to get it even tho he's right across the street. this is the longest time ever we haven't seen each other, either. i haven't seen him for pretty much three weeks. and well, his roommate and i aren't on good terms either. we'll act alright toward each other in person, but i hear things, dunno what his deal was either. actually, i dunno what all his friends' deals are cuz a lot of them talk trash about me that i found out and i was like...damn...what the hell did i ever do to them? and then i found out some of his friends never had girlfriends...and one of them is a creepo. so i was like, ah, that explains it.
i know a month's not really anything nowadays, but i think i'm kind of over him now, after i thought about it these past couple of days...i still say that he didn't really give me and him a chance, but he told me that if we were to stay in a long term relationship he wouldn't be happy or some other bs. then i said how would he know if he didn't try, but oh well.
is it true that for as long as u've gone out with someone, it should take half the time to get over them? i dunno that's what my friend said. i told her i hope i find someone else before he does and well, it took me just as long and a little bit longer to kind of get over him. and i still don't even know if i am or not.