Impatient as can be.

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I feel like I'm driving my guy away because I'm always contacting him first now. He responds for the most part, but he takes forever to reply back when he does. Surprisingly, I have been seeing the same guy for a little while now, haha, but things aren't looking so good at the moment. :frowning:

I keep deleting his phone number from my cell, but then I add it back anyway, ugh.
How can I make myself not contact him first and wait for him to contact me?

Yesterday, I thought he wasn't going to reply back to me but he eventually did so I had his number in my phone again. We've talked to each other a lot during these past two weeks, but he hasn't made the effort to see me. He TELLS me he's interested still, that I should wait for him, but he hasn't put in the effort to see me anymore and is always with his guy friends and family.

Today, I was impatient yet again. Texted him first yet again, I hate myself for doing this. So this time I really deleted his number from everything in my phone. Please tell me there is hope that he will see me tonight and respond to me? He told me he will most likely see me tonight, but I don't know if I should believe him.

I'm feeling really down and I haven't seen him in two weeks even though he lives right around the corner from me. He might as well live in China. Anyone else have this problem of not being able to wait for the person to contact you? I am so impatient it is driving me crazy, lol.

There is only two reasons I don't call or text Shannon right back. 1- I'm in class. 2- driving. Ok well 3 haha and that 3ed is we've had a fight and I'm just being a Ass and not answering. But for 1 and 2 I do call (or text) as soon as I can. She is most of the time the one that calls first. There are a few reasons I'd call her first - like I need to talk so I don't; so something stupid. I left something I need at her house and need her to bring it to school with her or it's bed time. Lol Before bed the first to go to sleep calls the other and says goodnight. Sometimes I call her first but it's more so her calling me first.

There is more I'm getting from your post than just not calling you back that is making me think there is some red flags. Accurse he's going to say he's still interested especially if he's getting laid.

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feeling really down and I haven't seen him in two weeks even though he lives right around the corner from me.
Oh hell ...Shannon would never get rid of me if we lived that close to each other.

I knew it. I was gonna let it go that he didn't have to see me last night if he couldn't as long as he replied to me, but he never replied at all. So I sent him this message telling him that he confuses me. He says one thing and does another but that he has to tell me what he really wants and that I can't take it anymore.Think that was a good idea? I still can't decide on whether or not it is. At least I'll know for sure now then I guess.

Sounds good to me - expressing it in terms of how you feel is what you are supposed to do

Originally Posted By: aquariusAnyone else have this problem of not being able to wait for the person to contact you? I am so impatient it is driving me crazy, lol. I always end up having this problem and yes it sure drives me crazy too. LOL.I did the same thing you did. Add the phone number back after deleting it, unblock email after I blocked it, etc.

Don't waste your time on him. He lives around the corner and you haven't seen him in two weeks? Thats very pathetic (on his part)!!Find someone else to occupy your mind (since hes obviously not interested) and ignore his texts IF he texts you.

It's kind of my fault that I drove him away =/. I know I've been annoying him lately, but I couldn't help it so now he doesn't want to see me as often =(.He replied to my message finally and gave me a straightforward answer. I told him how I am so confused with his saying one thing but doing another and to please tell me what he actually wants.Okay. It's good to know that he still wants to hang out with me, but he told me I really have to be patient and wait for him to contact me and that he apologized for his behavior.I've tried looking for other people, too, but my mind just goes back to him. Yeah, it does suck when something is so close yet so far away. but I think we are going to work it out hopefully.

lol, it doesn't help that I have the phone number memorized, too, haha.

Lol, I'm 24-years-old and I just had my first real conversation witih somebody. Ya I'm bad at this.

Originally Posted By: aquariuslol, it doesn't help that I have the phone number memorized, too, haha. mhmm, same problem here. lol.It was hard for me to leave the guys I loved so much but I did it anyway. I find it very frustrating, waiting staring at my phone-wishing he would call me or txt me.Anyway, if you haven't seen him when he lives nearby, I suggest you to drop the expectations and just be friends with him. There are guys out there who are much better than him. He sounds like my ex bf who lives nearby and I would have to wait for weeks or months to see him.

You're better than a guy like that.

There really is no one in my town. They are mostly douches, actually all douches, lol. I hate to say he's actually been the least douchiest of the guys I've ever hung out with.

With other guys I hung out with, if I was annoying them, they wouldn't even reply at all or only whenever they felt like it. I guess I should be grateful that he replies for the most part even though I do annoy him.

He tells me that I shouldn't think he won't contact me anymore because he will. I just hope that's true. I definitely won't talk to him anymore though, at least not first anyway. :frowning:

The more you post the more it seems like my previous situation with my ex.I am surrounded by douches as well. lol looks up at sky Hello anyone there?? Send some good guys for me and aquarius.....pweeez!! Amen.

Haha yeah, we def do need some good guys.So this is the message that he sent me what do you think? Quote:i'm sorry if ive been stand-offish or whatever, and im happy to know ive made u happy. Your a smart fun crazy lol person, and we've def had some fun times.This stuff about you being infatuated is a little scary, cuz i dont have those same feelings for u or anyone else right now. The last thing i wanna do is hurt u, but it seems thats what im doing by not being more readily available/accessible. Now im sounding like dr phil, and i hate that guy lol.To me, and ill be honest cuz u deserve it, this is a F thing, i do not want a relationship, so if u can handle that, we could possibly continue occassional sessions, but if not, we gotta stop cuz i cant string u along because its not right. I thought we were mutual in what 'this' was, but maybe were not, dont mean to sound harsh. You are fun to hang with and talk about shemales lol, but if u cant get that this is a hang out occassionally thing, we gotta break it completely, ok? Think about it, do whats right for u, and lemme know what u think-L I am A.O.K. with it being just an F thing...but the thing is, he hasn't F'd me in what I feel like forever and I could really use a good f'ing right now because school is seriously killing me, lol.

Honestly, I wouldn't see the guy again. Reasons are:  Quote:i'm sorry if ive been stand-offish or whatever, and im happy to know ive made u happy. Your a smart fun crazy lol person, and we've def had some fun times. He is using "past tense" as in "made u happy", "had some fun times".  Quote:This stuff about you being infatuated is a little scary, cuz i dont have those same feelings for u or anyone else right now. I would feel frustrated to deal with a person who doesn't share same feelings or is scared about a girl being infatuated about him and starts ignoring and neglecting her. Quote:The last thing i wanna do is hurt u, but it seems thats what im doing by not being more readily available/accessible. grr...why do guys say this line so often? More often it feels like he (the guy) doesn't want to end it and be the bad person (is chicken)....and is making the girl take the step forward and end it. Hun, this is a weird coincidence maybe but I have been through similar situations. From my experience I have learnt not to deal with guys who say such things. In the end I was the one who had to end things with the guys and felt guilty, depressed and hurt.Even if you are infatuated with him and it's only a F thing, think it over. Though we are surrounded by "douches", don't stop looking for some one who can understand you and return your feelings. There's is always someone out there who is much better than him. I am investing in a telescope to help my search for a nice guy. lol j/k. (it's for star-gazing anyway)

Drop him.The feelings you have for him wont just go away and you WILL be even more hurt in the end.

I will try. I can't help but to think about him f'ing me all day and he mistook that for me being in love with him lol so I had to explain to him what I really meant. Ya I think I do like him as more than a friend than he likes me but he is really really good at pleasing me when it comes to that it just sucks.

Ugh, now I don't know what to do with his birthday presents. I just got him some candy and a box of condoms, lmao he knows it was nothing really but he just grrr. (His bday was like 2 or 3 weeks ago and that's when he started getting this way.)He keeps telling me to wait for him and to not think that he won't contact me but I mean, he hasn't in a while.Man, I think on Friday I will be at the same place as him because that's where people in our town hang out. So, I hope I talk to someone new there and that he sees it, lol.I'm deleting his number for the thousandth time again, lmao. But this time it's staying deleted no matter how much I hate it.