Ok well i had a post where i said that my parents were fighting, well after that it all started to be alright, my parents actually talked after that, we went out to dinner one night, and it was basically normal. Except that my dad still slept in the living room(except for one night), and i thought it was just because he gets home late, and he works out in the living room, and watching t.v, so he wouldnt disturb my mom. But last night i came home late, around 1:30 a.m and my dad was in the living room on the couch laying down and watching t.v, and when i came in i said hi to him and everything and i noticed that he was sort of trying to hide his cellfone, but i noticed. I didnt really pay attention to him so then i went into my moms so she would know i came home, and i was about to go into my room when i just started to wonder who my dad would be talking on the fone with so i decided to sort of listen in a little, it sounded like a normal conversation(i thought with his mom) but then i was in my room and i heard my dad say something that i deffinatly knew it wasnt his mom. Ok well in the summer late at night i would always hear him talking to someone but i couldnt tell who, or what he was saying, but i knew it was bad, i never had the courage to ask him, but this time i wasnt going to stay silent. So i walked into the living room and i asked him who he was talking to, and he tried to hide the fone and he said his mom, and then i started getting angry and i told him that i wasnt stupid, and i was yelling at him and arguing and i said that if he had another women then tell me right now and stop lying to me and my mom, and he would keep denying it(then he changed it and said he was talking about his job since hes a security officer at a big hotel and often gets calls) it just turned up into a big mess, and now i dont know what to do..i feel like ignoring him and not talking to him anymore, but im afraid he might leave me and my mom, and it would all be my fault, but i cant talk to him, and be all nice with him knowing hes lying to me and my mom..i really don't know what to do right now, and i told him that the reasons i have been acting so bad lately, and going out so much is because of him, and its true...i want to tell him that if he doesnt straighten up and not lie anymore that hes going to lose his son, but the thing is that im afraid to lose him..
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I need advice..
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Uh, this isn't making much sense.> i want to tell him that if he doesnt straighten up and not lie anymore that hes going to lose his son, but the thing is that im afraid to lose himYou want to tell him he'll lose you, but you don't want to lose him?If you're really sure that he's talking to another woman, you don't wanna just ignore it and act like nothing's happening. But it seems like you don't want to do anything about it, afraid that he might leave (uhm, what else would you expect?).I think it may just be best to tell your mom about your suspicions and let them handle it.
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Originally Posted By: StillSearchingUh, this isn't making much sense.> i want to tell him that if he doesnt straighten up and not lie anymore that hes going to lose his son, but the thing is that im afraid to lose himYou want to tell him he'll lose you, but you don't want to lose him?If you're really sure that he's talking to another woman, you don't wanna just ignore it and act like nothing's happening. But it seems like you don't want to do anything about it, afraid that he might leave (uhm, what else would you expect?).I think it may just be best to tell your mom about your suspicions and let them handle it. I want to say that to him so that he stop lying and maybe stop talking to whoever he is talking to..and my mom was there she came in the middle, and after it was over she told me she would talk to him the next day(which was this morning) and today she told me that he said he doesnt know what i was talking about that he wasn't talking to anyone and that maybe i was drunk, that really makes me mad because i didnt even drink..
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I think if your father is playing up, it's a matter between him and your mother. It's not your business to get involved, and it will just make things worse, as you're realising. Leave it alone. People make mistakes, and you shouldn't make their mistakes your responsibility.
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Originally Posted By: IneligibleI think if your father is playing up, it's a matter between him and your mother. It's not your business to get involved, and it will just make things worse, as you're realising. Leave it alone. People make mistakes, and you shouldn't make their mistakes your responsibility. I guess its true, but it just hurts me to know that my dad is talking to another women(and i know for sure that he is), and me not do anything about it. My mom didn't even know until last night during the arguement, and i knew since the summer. I just can't not do anything and be loving with my dad and knowing that he does that and that he lies to us. I thought that the talk we had in my other post and what he said to me, i thought that he would stop but i guess he didn't. Hopefully now he will....and right now hes actually not sleeping in the living room tonight, hes sleeping in the room with my mom..
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Looks to me like you want the best of both worlds - you want him to stop talking to this possible woman, and want him to stay and have everything be ok with your family.Life is not a picture book perfect story. Life sucks at times, and that's a fact.Like others have said, it's best to leave this between the parents.If it bothers you that much, you can always move out (unless you're underage)
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Just remember that this is not about YOU.
It's your dad. It looks like he has issues, and those are really between him and your mom.
You sound scared that he will leave - but it sounds like he's not respecting your mom..,
Again, just remember it's not you. You'll decide what's best for you = Good luck.
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Please be sure to respond to the correct person next time. It prevents confusion.
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Ok guys thanks again for the advice..well atleast my mom and my dad are ok with eachother now, and my dad is actually sleeping on the bed which means he probably isnt talking to whoever it was..and i guess if my mom isn't sad then im ok too, because the reason i was mad was because that is disrespecting my mom..thanks guys