I've VERY recently started becoming sexually active with my girlfriend... and I'm so embarrassed and worried about a lot of things! It's actually starting to stress me out a lot, because I really like this girl for who she is.We try to be very open about things, so she knows a lot about me... and I know a lot about her. About two weeks ago I tried fingering her for the first time for about twenty minutes. I did a (come here) motion with my finger... and tried rubbing the clit. She insists I did a good job, but I felt like an idiot. She didn't climax, but says that it's really not a big deal (she's never masturbated, but she has been fingered before)Here comes the more embarrassing part(s)... last Saturday she had a small party, and her and I went up to her room. After making out for a pretty solid amount of time, she started to fully rub my cock through my pants. I probably came within five minutes, especially when she actually put her hand down my pants and started massaging me... Then the next day when I was over, the same incident happened. I was able to cum REALLY quickly, and she was only massaging me through my pants!I hadn't really thought about how fast I was until a night or two ago we were talking. She said something like "Oh, you came Saturday and Sunday?" and I was like, "Yeah..." and she goes (biggest stab at my manhood, EVER): "Oh! That was fast!" When I tried to explain how ridiculously embarrassing what she said was, she kept telling me "How is that bad? I can make you cum without spending a ton of time and getting my arm tired!" It was a real killer. And worst of all, I'm afraid when she gives me a legit handjob she'll comment about my size, too! I'm only about 4 and a half inches when fully erect, so I'm really insecure about sexual things.Any input at all would be MORE than greatly appreciated...!
Help! (A lot of general questions)
Dude,relax.I'm 16 and I sorta know about getting sexually active.When you first start out, you have no idea what you're doing. Don't think that everyone starts out being good. It'll take time AND you should just ask her what feels good. That's the only way you'll know for sure.And when you start off of course you are going to cum fast. You are young and it's your first time. You can't help it and you should believe her when she said it doesn't bother her.Finally, she's your girlfriend, you are comfortable around each other, so don't worry about your size. Girls really don't care as much as guys think, and she likes you for you, so it won't matter to her.Point is, you guys are together and if you are good together, then you guys need to communicate. If her handjobs are bad, tell her what do to do to make them better. You have to talk, and you have to relax. It'll be fine, trust me.
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