Gay/Bi Lonliness!

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Hey all,
Ever since i _really_ discovered sex (i.e. explored and didn't just follow the crowd of "oh! milfhunter.com!" at age 12, i have known i have an obvious attraction to boys. Although this attraction is still stronger than my attraction to girls, i would still consider myself a Bi-Curious or Bisexual (whatever you like to call it, i've done more with girls than i have boys).
The problem i have is that i know absolutely NO homosexuals, other than some scary lesbian at college, and so in order to keep myself sane i regularly explore the "internet's gay scene". (I sense your worry!)
Everywhere i turn it seems to be sex, sex, sex, and ok whilst i'm sure sex is all amazing and everything, it's not really what i want right now. I need someone to talk to, someone to relate to, someone who i know that, if i DO end up having sex with, they're not just going to treat it as any other Friday/Saturday night's shag. Remember, i'd be losing my virginity here and that's important to me. I have a big problem with being just another slutty twink (touchy subject - pardon my language!).
Anyhoo at the moment i just feel SO lonely, it really is as though i'm a complete freak and have no hope whatsoever of finding someone who actually wants to talk - and just to make matters worse i am still closetted, with no intention of coming out in the near future.
I'm going through quite a stressy time at college - it's my last year so i have all sorts of deadlines, exams, targets... yadda yadda yadda (although i still have time for socialisation obviously), and to be honest it's really just pissing me off now, and i really think that someone capable of a conversation to help me releive my problem would take a lot of that stress off (since a lot of it is down to feeling isolated).
Being in london, our colleges are at 17-18 years old so it's not like US colleges, and they don't have things like gay clubs, etc.
ANYWAY, i was wondering whether anyone knew of any websites or anything where i can just socialise in a not-necessarily-sexual way with other gays, or whether anyone on here is up for a chat?
Also, do any of you older guys remember this period? or am i alone because i'm not so sex-mad at the moment? How did you overcome it, etc?
I would really appreciate any responses to this topic, and apologise for making you read so much boring text!
Jonathan

I don't know about websites, but I do know that we have a few gay members here that would more than willingly help, AND understand your plight.I also know, that these members have answered some of my curiosity questions as a strait person and been very helpful.(and understanding of my ignorance or naivety which ever it is). So I am sure they can help you out!!!!

Don't let yourself be fooled by thinking that being gay is just what you see on the internet. It's not. As for web sites for meeting people, in the states, there is outin(your city's name here).com and others. I looked but didn't see the same sight for London. Like any other site they have their fare share of perv's lurking around waiting to ponce, so you have to be discriminating and get to know people just as you would in any other situation. I made a few good friends through such a site. There are some good sites it's just going to take more sifting to find them. For that matter this site can provide you with a few good on line gay, bi and straight friends that you can talk as well. Hell, since your not looking for a hook-up, feel free to shoot me a PM or just talk on the boards. I don't have much time to talk at the moment but I'll be back around (I'm openly bi and happily married, by the way). Your not alone, as long as your here.By the way, welcome to the boards... I think this said it was your third post.

Where the hell have you been! It ain't exactly been hidden. laughs and shakes head

Probably the same place I been...lolI knew you were an open person...just didn't KNOW...lol...I guess I just miss too many posts or something!

LOL...Scotty, you hot bastard...Now I am jealous...only the guys hit on me...I am jealous of my man too he gets hit on all the time by men and women. What the hell am I doing wrong!?!?! I ate pussy once or twice... oops, was that my outside typing..lolhitting on Scotty

yeah i'm comfortable talking on this site, for the simple reason that you all think (or rather, thought) i'm called Jonathan :PThanks for the welcome - i did have a membership a couple of years back i think it was shadow66 or something like that but i just made a new one - regardless, i never really used the site then so i guess i am basically new lolThanks for all the replies so far, guys!

Gah! IDK! Lets ask him! we could call him Sc-hottie!

Yeah sure, you can hit on me...

To jon dalton... nope, never got that messed up, unless I just did..lol

Wow... that totally confused me! Who the hell is scotty?

Beside that, I'm openly gay, you guys know that. And outside of furries, I don't really know any gay sites besides justusboys. But that site is deeply covered with gay pornography, so I guess it would be out. Other than that one, you're SOL. Unless you consider furries.

Scotty is OldFolks.

Ooh! My bad! Thanks for clearing that up ^^'

@ Pepsi tooSince I've only been here 2 years, 3 months and have only made 1656 posts I guess I ought to introduce myself.Hello everyone, My name is Scotty. (I chose OldFolks as screen name to keep cam'ers from PMing me.)I'm 33.I'm happily married for over 10 years. My wife is smokin' hot.I'm right down the middle Bi.I'm NDN and Scottish. Though I was raised in and only know about the former culture.I'm opinionated.I don't like people getting in my space. Stay three feet back.I prefer the company of animals, to people.I worked as a stripper for a short while.I've gone out with half the free world but only had intercourse with one person.Let see, what have I left out....whatever I'm sure its posted somewhere on these pages.It's nice to finally meet you all.

Well it's nice to meet you Scotty. I'm Brandon, also known as Cal. I am a mut of races as you would say, my main race being Native American. I am a homeland texan and pretty much everything else about me you can find on here. I think I've been a member for like 2 years but have posted maybe 70 times, but am gaining now.Hope to blog with you more often!

LOL, Lots of that I knew. It's that whole wife thing that kept me thrown off...I thoroughly remember her being smokin' hot. I also remember (vaguely) the intercourse with only one person.

*Hugs Scotty* (from three feet away, of course)! It just goes to show you, that coming and going leaves us with missing pieces of who each of us are.

I can pretty much only echo Scotty (OldFolks). I'm gay and you can feel free to PM me if you like about any questions you might have. I’m an open book and don’t mind sharing my experiences and help to answers any questions you might have. Not to mention this forum is a good site to find information and to ask questions. I struggled a long time with my sexuality and even called myself bisexual until I was about 21 years old, I'm 27 now. I was raised in a family where homosexuality was not talked about, and when it was brought up it was always in a negative light. So it was really hard for me to accept that I was gay. Also does your University have homosexual support clubs? I know that’s a very popular thing here in the US.And to everyone else, lay off my Scotty… he’s my other Husband grin hehe

Quote:only the guys hit on me... Ahem....I believe I have hit on you more than once.

Eddie is the only other one, besides my wife and dog, allowed inside my 3' radius. wink, winkLish why don't you load up with Eddie and we can see if you can get inside my space, too.

Ooop!, sexy, I forgot, we haven't played in the glitter in SO long...

I'm so short Scotty, you wouldn't even notice me in your 3 feet of space. steals Eddie's glitter and runs to find Jenn

YAY!!!!

Glitter after Christmas! I KNEW the holidays weren't over yet!