I personaly do not know what is wrong with me lately.I used to be able to mack on girls all the time and was always able to talk to them and not be that nervous..But now, I get VERY nervous, I dont know what to say anymore. And somehow when i meet a new girl I always get tongue tied and we end up having a weird awkward silent..Real example; today was my first day of college and I came early to find my classes so I wouldnt be late, I found my class but was 1 hour early..so I chilled at the bench outside my class in the shade. And this cute chick comes up to me and is like "hey is this the math class?" And I reply "yah but class hasnt started yet". So she goes on about how she is trying to talk to the teacher and get in the class. And how she plays on the volleyball team for our school. And I say "Oh cool..." THEN DEAD SILENCE...I have no clue what to say...my mind is like brain dead, i dont know how to be interesting....SO I SAID .."Oh i gotta meet a friend at the library for a while before class starts, ill see you later !" ....I lied, i didnt have a friend waiting for me. I didnt wanna feel lame and have a weird silence...I FAIL AT LIFE AND SOCIALIZING PLEASE HELP ME, WHAT CAN I DO..I NEVER WANT TO BE IN THIS SITUATION AGAIN..what can i do to make myself charming, witty, conversational...has any1 ever been through this? sorry long post..
Tongue Tied, Loss of self confidence..I NEED HELP!
You are in a situation right now that is rather difficult. Your whole life as you knew it has changed--new school, new classmates, new friends, new environment. It will take a lttle while to feel comfortable again, but you will.In the meantime, when you meet someone new, ask them about themselves. Make your questions open ended like "how long have you been playing volleyball?" instead of "have you been playing volleyball long?" Then other questions will flow from that:Did you school have a volleyball team or we you playing on a club team? How long? Where did you go to high school? Tell me about that area of the country...Keep in mind that most everyone is feeling the same way you do.
What ready said. Your in new situation and whether you know it or not it's very stressful and your ease and confidence is stressed. As you become more accustom to your new surroundings and circumstances your confidence and manner will more than likely return. In the meantime take ready's advice on how to proceed with conversation and interactions.
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