Erection problems?

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I know I'm new to the boards, and this might seem like a wierd question. I'm gay, and every time my boyfriend penetrates me, I lose my erection. Does anyone know why?

Well first obvious question... does it hurt when your BF penetrates you?

nope, doesn't hurt at all... maybe a tiny bit to start with if he hasn't fingered me enough, but nothing to compain about

Is this the first BF you've been this intimate with? Perhaps it's not a "pain" issues but more of an "uncomfortable" issue simply because it's something new? Being a gay male myself I remember the first few time I bottom, it wasn't painful but it was a very weird sensation, something I wasn't used to feeling.

Also why I am thinking about it... how are your erections otherwise when not being penetrated?

I'm 19 now, and I don't get as many spontaneous erections as I used to, and so also I find them more difficult to maintain... but I figured that it was because I'm on the upper end of the developing stage, that it was natural. I have no trouble with keeping them when I'm having sex or using my hands. I only seem to lose them when I'm being penetrated.

Is sex a new thing for you? Nerves can really effect erections quite a bit.Can you self stimulate yourself when bottoming?

yes, he is my first intimate bf, but we've been together 2 years now, so I feel quite confident around him. I have a toy which, it's the same with that. I can't really keep an erection.

Well if you can stimulate yourself and keep an erection I'd say the funtion of your penis itself is just fine.You might just be one of those people. A friend of mine loves to bottom, but he has told me a lot of the time he goes soft when he bottoms even though he finds it extremely enjoyable. Just part of what happens to him sexuality when he bottoms. This might just be part of how your body ticks. As always though, if this is something that is truly concerning you always speak to a doctor.Also sounds like this is something that weights on your mind and possibly stresses you out during sex. Which that in itself could also cause you to lose your erection because you are concentrating to much on wanting to stay hard. Just something to think about as well.

Thank you so much. You're awsome Ntroducing myself... not single by any chance are you? lol.

Thank you again.

Very welcome! Glad to help. And no sorry, I'm happily (most of the time ROFL) taken

This kid makes a thread about ass sex and gets more help then mine (similar topic with a serious medical problem). Incredible.

That's pretty rude of you to say.People have given you advice and their thoughts but no one is a doctor. What more do you want from this board?

In your situation, paulpierce, it seems to be a physiological issue that needs professional tests and instrumentation - there's not a lot this site can do; whereas for the original poster, being a smaller and less serious problem, there may be more advice posters are able to give. The amount of help someone gets doesn't depend on the seriousness of the problem, but on what suggestions people have.

I apologize for spilling my frustrations on the board, and especially to the original poster. However, I did not say anything intended to be offensive.

The problem with you is that no one here really can help your condition. No one here is a doctor. The OP here does not have a medical condition and thus can receive more help from others that understand his question.

You guys are awsome on these boards, thank you. yes I do enjoy it, but I also think you're quite right about my mind being on other things. I'll try relaxing a bit more. and in response to your question about noticing it in porn... I can't say that I've watched that much... OOO, thank you also for the sites, they're bookmarked now, they're helping with a few other issues too. thank you all. It's really appreciated.

I'm sorry paulpierce34, you sound like you're having a rough time. I'll pray for you, as that's the only useful thing I can do for you I think. I guess that it sounds wierd that I'm a Christian that's gay... but yeah, Jesus loves us all.

Originally Posted By: HuggingHomoI'm sorry paulpierce34, you sound like you're having a rough time. I'll pray for you, as that's the only useful thing I can do for you I think. I guess that it sounds wierd that I'm a Christian that's gay... but yeah, Jesus loves us all. Thank you. I don't think God can help me medically but I am sorry for being offensive and attacking you unintentionally. I accept all people and you seem very nice.