Help, please...

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OK, here's the deal. I didn't graduate, I knew I wasn't going to, and I didn't tell my girlfriend of a year and a half, Michelle, until about 3 days before 'graduation.' Her mother had gotten my school files illegally, twice, about 3 months, before 'graduation,' Michelle knew about it, and never told me until after I told her about not graduating on time.I didn't tell Michelle because of her history of depression, self-mutilation, and attempted suicide, half-assed or otherwise. She says she didn't tell me because she didn't want her mom to distrust her.About a month ago, she decided we were going to 'take a break' and I, left without a choice and madly in love, agreed to it. I started to hang out with my friends more, leaving less time to see her. She then broke up with me, only to ask me to take her back 15 minutes later (no bullshit). I did (don't ask why, I don't know). For about two months after that (I'm in summer school to get my diploma so I can go to college in the fall), she did nothing but badger me about school, work, my female friends, and cry when I didn't tell her what she wanted to hear.We are 'back together' now, meaning not on a break, and things are leveling out a little, meshing like they used to.I love her, she loves me, and there's no sex (fear of pregnancy), so that doesn't play into it.The question: Do I break up with her, and head off what could be torment (or ruin what could be utter bliss)? Or do I stick it out, bear with the scrutiny, and aim for utter bliss (and risk torment)?That's the quick and dirty, so to speak. If you want/need more info, either PM me or put it in here.Thank you SO much if you've read this far! ANY advice is welcome, this is my first relationship (ever) and I am completely in the dark.

Try to have a long good talk. See what the both of you want out of this relationship. I think that would help a bit.

That's my plan for today. I'm worried about the effect it'll have though. Every other talk has resulted in anger and tears for all parties. We'll see how things go.Thanks!

Update: Ok, now she's avoiding me like a combination of the plague and syphilis... She hasn't answered her phone in 3 days, she hasn't returned my calls/texts, and broken plans to hang out almost every day. I went to visit her at work Tuesday, and her boss said she wasn't there. She works for the Air Force, so I can't exactly sneak to her desk, so I had them leave her a message telling her to call me. Never did. I can't go visit her today, my turbocharger decided to blow a pair of bearings (!), and she leaves for the lake tomorrow at noon, when I'll be getting home from summer school.

As far as I know, everything is OK between us for now. Any ideas?

Like I said, as far as I know she's not mad at me or anything. But then again, she's done this before, so IDK what to think now...

I'm afraid it's her parents if someone is pressuring her. They created the depression issue with their super-high standards. My new turbocharger gets here tomorrow, so my friend Nick and I are gonna replace the fried one and then we're going to Cedar Point, so I'm gonna let her know I'm in the area and I'll see if she wants to come with/hang out.Random, completely off topic rant: Why in the world would Mitsubishi sell a car with a turbocharger, and then not lubricate the bearings properly! I love engineers who think that the car they designed to be driven hard won't be driven hard...

Doubt it, but her dad does work at the same office. Update 2: She just texted me and told me she didn't feel like going to Cedar Point, her favorite amusement park ever. I told her it was my treat, and she said she didn't feel like it. I asked why and she said, and I quote, 'IDK, just not in the mood for roller coasters. no desire to scream my head off and get a headache.' She has NEVER complained about the headache. In fact, she calls me a pussy when I do.

OK, apparently there's a movie theater near their place by the lake we're gonna go to. She wants to see WALL-E, and I want to drive so that I can get my turbo gauged. So far, as it stands now, WALL-E at only she knows where. Then, hopefully, she'll tell me what's been up. One can only hope...

Update 3: I can't do this anymore. When she broke up with me and asked me to take her back, she said she'd give me a break with the whole school thing because I had started to change my study/scholastic habits. Tonight, however, she started in on me again. 'How's summer school, why didn't you get an A in the course?' I had an 89.44%. Yes, the course was easily ace-able, but I got a 71% on the first test, maybe laziness or lack of sleep, probably both. 'What's going on with college, a job, a car? (she thinks my Eclipse is ruined for good, but it's not {happy dance})The movie was a bust. We went, she started badgering me about school, so I kindly asked her to let the evening be about having fun and not about anything but us. She felt hurt about it, saying I was being mean, I guess by how I went about asking her. My words were as follows: "Hey sweetie, could you do me a favor? Could we worry about school a different night? I want to just have fun and laugh and watch a robot movie and hold your hand and whisper that I love you in your ear every chance I get. Please?" I know this because I saved them as a draft in my phone when I saw her reaction, so I could ask my sisters/mom if they were too angry. I'll let you decide.There's more now, also. Since I had to spend $1,192.87 on a new turbocharger (a lot of money, I know, but it had to be done) she feels that I'm being frivolous and wasting money. I know it was expensive, but I also knew it would need to be replaced when I bought the car, and I saved for 6 months after I got it so that I would have the money. She cried when she heard how much it cost.I've tried SO hard to make things work between us. I've rented cars, given up chances to go to Germany, left killer parties to comfort her, and now I've applied to 4 colleges that won't take me, all in the name of love, and she hasn't so much as flinched or said, 'Good job, you're improving!'I'm at my wits end. I'm completely out of ideas.

Thanks, good to hear that I'm NOT the gently caress up. Tomorrow, and if not Tuesday.

I agree with Rad.

You don't sound very compatible. Find someone else.
I dunno what this, break up, get together, stuff is, but she'll move on, and if you have trouble with it afterward, stick with it and so will you.

Final update(sounds more morbid than it is): I broke up with her Monday. It wasn't easy, but, like some of you have noticed/came to the conclusion of, it wasn't working out either. She said that she still wanted to be my friend, and that if I needed anything to just call her and she'd be there. If there is a such thing as a 'good break-up' this was it. No anger, no blaming the other, no name-calling, nothing.

Thanks again for all your advice, and for listening/reading. I needed to get this stuff off of my chest.

When things like this happen, you have to open the valves and let off your pressure. It's all good. Glad to hear you acted.