Afraid to ask mom..need ur help!!!!!

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ok,i am about to be 13 on the 13th of july and when i was 11 i had sex for the first time i know i was too young it was a huge mistake and i have learned from it and i have not had sex since but i am a bit concern about what's going on down there and i wanna ask my doctor but i'm afraid that the doctor will tell my mom about the questions i ask her i know its ok to ask questions but i'm so scared of my mom i know she will make me live with my dad if i tell the doctor i had had sex before.but i'm so worried about myself would if i have a std that i don't know about would if i have a infection or something down there and i die but i probably will die if my mom finds out i had sex and i go live with my dad i'm so scared can anyone help me with some questions i have about my vagina.plz

my friend told me that the doctor can tell your mother everthing that you tell her if the parent asks

Welcome to AfraidToAsk, jones1111. Feel free to ask any questions here - you are anonymous here and your mother won't know. We can't answer everything, because some things do need a doctor, but we can try our best.Rad, I'm sure your paediatrician was doing the right thing, but I think quite often doctors don't respect the privacy of underage patients as much as they ought. The rules aren't always followed.

hmm, hon you had sex when you were 11?? was it forced on you, or was it a mutual decision from the partner? 11 is pretty young, but if you explain to your mother that you havent done it since, im sure she would understand. as to going to the doctor alone, when i was 14, i started cutting myself. i went to counselling, and i had a doctor appointment booked. my mother drove me there, but i went in alone. so i think if you ask to speak to the doc alone, again, she should understand.

WEll i'm kinda thinkin' about telling my mom at my birthday party mabey since it's my b-day she won't get mad...that much. Plus it wasn't like i planned it to happened or even wanted it to i just couldn't find a way to say no.I was so young and regret every single moment.And i'm kinda worried about my body.So i wanna do something b4 i die or something....it might already be 2 late its almost been 2 years.Besides i'm tired of talking to my friend about stuff like this how is she suppose to know anything...she isn't a doctor,even though alot of stuff she says makes since,but i need to know for sure.And i need to tell my mom i'm tired of keepng this secert from her and mabey she will understand when i tell her i actually didn't want to have sex it just happened,i knew i wasn't ready but it was like i didn't want to dissapoint him and say no.And i just wanted an exciting story to tell my godbrother.I didn't realize how important sharing my body was with someone then.If i knew then what i know now i would change everything.

Any sensible mum will understand if you have learnt from your mistakes and you have the wit to go and tell her. Perhaps a little less understanding if she heard through the Doctor, because then she wouldn't think you wanted to tell her at all.