hey there.Basically i seem to have a bit of a conundrom.Im a 17 year old guy, and about 6 months or so ago, my girlfriend whoat the time who i had been going out with for about 6 months decided, along with myself that we were ready for sex. Well we didn't get much alone time and the one time we did was after i'd had a house party, and at this time she was pretty drunk. I hadn't had an awful lot to drink, fairly tipsy but still well within my senses and could tell that it wasn't the right time for us both to lose our V's. Well anyway, just the thought about it and her talking about it etc and insinuating, made me feel very very close to ejaculating even before we had done anything. I mean, i can last a fair while when receiving a handjob or oral, and i don't have any concerns there, but just the thought of having sex brought me so close it was untrue.Well anyway we didn't have sex, but if we had i could have pretty much guaranteed i wouldn't have lasted more than 30 seconds.So now im with my current girlfriend, however after a few months we had sex together. It wasn't the best experience, she bled quite a bit etc but it was fine in the end. The difference being though, that not once did it cross my mind about pre ejaculation, and i lasted a fair while.Well after the slight ordeal we had, we didn't have sex for a couple months, until last night. I could tell as soon as we started talking about it that it wasn't gonna go well, and sure enough i came very quickly, however if she had been giving me oral, i could also guarantee that i would have lasted a long time.About an hour later we actually had sex again and that went really well. Now i know that obviously i'd be less likely to come quickly again, but it was more the mental situation that i knew myself that i wasn't going to.Basically what im saying is, how do i get out of this mental block that im going to come really quickly, and inevitably end up doing so? (Sorry for the essay)
I've heard that if you masturbate an hour before sex, it can help you last significantly longer
well thats what im thinking made me last longer, coming about an hour before...
but its quite inconvenient to make sure i masturbate before, cuz if we dont have sex and just like oral or something, it's gonna be tough for her to even make me come!