Questions and Statements about Self Image

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First off the statements about self image. I have issues with my self image which I have been told by many (I can see it in the mirror and with my actions as well) is much better than I feel. I am about six feet tall and around 215 pounds and extremely fit and built, but I feel fat and lazy. I can pickup any design software at work and I can get right into no issue, but I feel stupid.My questions are what could be causing this with myself and in general? I am more better looking, smarter, and stronger than I give myself.

If you grew up with people saying bad things about you, this could make it very difficult to believe anything else.

Yeah i had that problem when i was younger. I used to be wayyyy below the average height, i was like 4'6" when i was i was 12(6th grade). I got made fun of a lot being called short etc. Until i had my growth spurts now im 5'5" and i'm 16. I guess i'm still short but not that short, but now i have self-image problems too. I can feel really good sometimes and other times it's hard for me to find something that makes me feel good about myself. I even feel depressed sometimes, when i know i shouldn't and i should feel happy for myself. I think i also have signs of bipolarity. To the OP, maybe you had the same problem when you were younger?

well I am not short or severely overweight, but I was made fun of a lot in grade school when I moved home. I get hit on a lot now which is funny considering I feel unattractive. I am just wondering in general to what causes this it is interesting to me.

I am 5'11" and 215 pounds, so I am over their chart by 30 pounds but I bench my own weight and I am built mainly with muscle.

You know I really do not know. I mean it is a matter of seeing it and I do see all my great qualities, but I am still very hard on myself and it really confuses me.

You're the shit jon.You just need to work on your confidence!

Awww thanks.

I know what you are saying and I can see it in the mirror and in my work but I can never really "feel" it.

I know it's hard to "feel" it. It takes time to actually get that confidence back.

Jon, I met you #50 ago. I of course feel like I am unattractive, because that is the perception...but I FEEL like the sexiest girl alive. (Um, I know, I know what to do, he he and my man knows too, but I still think about the stereo type of thin) It takes a while to get to the point where you feel like your TOTALLY ok with yourself...And you look aws...YOU DO NOT LOOK BAD!!!BUT, if you aren't comfy with who you are...looks oddly enough become the thing you think you should change....You got the looks, now, you need the confidence!!!! (And confidence has made some uglies look good)...Just imagine what it could do for a good looker like you!

I feel like that all the time!! I'm 14 and 5 foot or more, sorry haven't gotten measured in a while, but I check my weight a ton and I am 118 but I look tubby and that makes me mad I'm physically active, I play some tackle football and I run a lot, but I still look fat. I don't really care what others think of me, but I have been getting picked on a lot for it and that is what I want to stop. I have a fairly good diet, except for a few sodas, and I drink plenty of water so I want to know what could be the causes for my chest fat?

Well since I have posted this I have dropped 10 pounds and packed on a shit ton of muscle.

I use a dip machine, bench press, and incline press as my primary chest workouts. I also manage my calorie intake heavily. I have become more lax now but I leave a lot of room for me to slack.

You can eat healthy and eat too much.

You've done well in less than one month!

I have been told I have been incredibly hard on myself. I work out nearly 7 times a week and strive for some sort of perfection that I wont attain. But it is fading and I am relaxing.I need to slowdown because my bones and joints are starting to fight back against me. I do so much weight and workout so often that it hurts to move my shoulders and I am sore constantly. LOL

eeek thats not good. dont strain yourself too much honey, other wise you might hurt yourself. but congrats though =) im proud of you.

Thanks!I took a break yesterday. Now all I need to complete the circle is woman by my side who can rub my arms and chest. I love the way that feels!

haha i know right? i love getting and giving massages =p

Originally Posted By: WalkenThanks!I took a break yesterday. Now all I need to complete the circle is woman by my side who can rub my arms and chest. I love the way that feels! I much prefer getting my head rubbed (pun not intended).I love the way it feels to have my head scratched, and hand in my hair....mmm...I just melt away...

I love it when some of my female co-workers rub my arms and touch me. I want to have that for my own. I am worth it!

i miss having someones arms around me :frowning: