Dealing with everyone being afraid of you

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ok inclouding neck 2 foot 9

The combination of a very large build, a face without emotion, and a certain jumpiness would be rather scary. People would feel they don't know what you'll do next. It's possible to show some friendly humanity without making yourself vulnerable (though I think vulnerability is important in the human condition).

well i dont know why but unless i know sombody i cant relax till i know them i only know 2 pepole that i can relax around i try but seems like every time i do i end up in alot of trouble

i very rarely get mad pepole always call me secretive but i just dont talk much and i like to keep my personal stuff from being known to everybody

It sounds like since you have had bad experiences, to stop them happening again you have built thick walls around yourself, like a castle. But the problem is that now people can't get near you because of the walls. I think it's a natural response to bad experiences, but as a cure it can be worse than the disease.Perhaps you relax in an over-exuberant way. I've always found it helpful to imagine myself as the other person, and consider what he or she is thinking.

so does anybody else got this problem

i try to get along with everybody but seems like there aint much point i did get a kick out of something a gril walked up next to me and shes shorter than me i looked over and that ivoles looking down with her so she thought i was lookin at her tits

i dont know why i put this under sexuality

Has it got any better?

some