So, I overthink the smallest things, and make myself feel bad about them, then whatever it was in the first place I make to be my fault. I'm in a relationship with this girl, 8 months in 2 weeks. We're excellent together, except for the times where I put myself down. Friends have told me, she's told me, I need to stop worrying so much, I have no reason to. I'm with a girl that's in love with me, and I'm in love with her(if you're going to say anything like "You two aren't in love after 7 months, then go somewhere else. I don't want to hear it.) I even know I should just stop overthinking, yet for some reason I just can't. I figure I need some psychiatric help possibly, even though I'm not sure if that would help. So I stopped here, to possibly see if anyone can help me. Anyone got any advice to get me to stop overthinking and stop putting myself down?
This is not easy, because it's deeply ingrained. But when you feel yourself worrying, tell yourself to take the risk. Nothing is certain, but we don't achieve anything unless we take risks.
Psychiatric help might be useful, though I think worrying is a personality trait for some people and they have to struggle with it through their lives. In serious cases anti-anxiety drugs can help, but most people would wish to avoid drugs and perhaps go for some sort of rational-emotive therapy.
Well it's not so much worry about doing something. But worry that something is bothering her and she's not telling me and will break up with me. Then that's when I begin to think my worry is making her not love me. And it snowballs from there, the littlest thing such as not feeling to talkative or even body language while she's walking not seeming happy that I'm there. Thanks for the reply though, but drugs and/or medicine is a no for me.