NO SYMPATHY FOR TEEN MOTHERS

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Well I 100% respect you for taking care of your children and beng so mature about it. I wish there were more young mothers like you.Also sorry to hear the circumstances behind your first child. Again is shows your maturity to have the child and raise the child from a rape situation. Truely shows how strong of a person you are.As I stated above my mother was young when she had my brother, and I am proud of her for breaking through all the barriers that were put up and being the successful lady she is today.So reguardless what people might say, hold your head up high and good things will come your way!

Oh congratulations on this and being responible. I think my sister needs to have a little chat with you.

thanks. as i said its different for different people. im glad that some one sees my point, i kept my first son as i said in my first post because i dont believe that its his fault i got raped. its his birth fathers fault, he didnt ask to be conceived. as it goes, i did think maybe hed remind me of the incident, however hes growin up to look like me and he reminds me that out of every bad sit comes something good.

is ur sis on here? id be happy to pm her or talk to her. if u want

Oh no she's not on here. But she does need some encouragement on having a baby. Her bf had gotten her pregnant and since they don't want an abortion or to put him/her up for adoption they decided to go along with the pregnancy. But she still get's those feelings of how it might inflict on her school work and how people may look down upon her.

I think what you're doing is heroic, but that does not mean that I'm gung ho on the idea of a 15-year-old choosing to get pregnant. You've already done what you've done, so my criticisms are aimed more at any 15-year-old girl who might read what you wrote, and have romantic ideas of how much fun it would be to have a baby.Did you and your boyfriend have to leave school at an early age? If so, does neither of you having a high school diploma (much less a college diploma) make things that much more difficult? Historically, women had babies at an early age, which was a necessity when lifespan was short. But modern society is not set up to deal with children having babies. There are families that have the wherewithal to support the young mother and her child(ren), but many mothers wind up on public assistance, and leave school at an early age. Some have parents who are unable or unfit to help.I don't know if you live in the U.S., but here there is not much public infastructure to help. What do you do for day care? Is that your parents' job? There's not much in the way of publicly-funded day care. You have a job? Then you probably don't qualify for Medicaid benefits. What do you do for medical insurance for the kids, or for yourself?There's no way around it: If you choose to have a child at 15, unless the father stays with you (rare but admirable) and is old enough to have a decent job, you will be burdening others, who almost certainly would not favor the idea of such a young girl having a child.I know a nurse practioner who worked at a clinic in an "underserved" (i.e., economically poor) area of Boston, and she saw so many young girls who wanted to have a baby. Many of them didn't get the love and nurturing that they needed from their family, and saw a baby as a thing that would give them unconditional love. Coming from poor, troubled families, they had no idea what they were in for.

It's good that you think that people shouldn't be doing that or that you have such standards for yourself, but to say some of the things you said, well...That was harsh. SOme girls have sex because of peer pressure or because the line "You will if you love me" gets brought up.

Oh goodness. How many times have I heard that line? Just answer back with a "love's tough get over it". Peer pressure should not bring people to have sex. But hey like they say "misery loves company".

Never did I say it was a good excuse, though you wrote me off as if I said that. I just said, that with the way many teens think, that that's what happens. Personally, I wouldn't fall for something like that from some guy.

Oh I'm not attacking you... I've been through that. I'm just agreeing with you about the peer pressure thing and giving a reason why you shouldn't. But no one should lose their virginity because of what other's think.

Which is exactly why I'm a virgin and will be until I meet the person I'm comfortable enough around to give that to. Which won't be for a long time. In other words, I won't be becoming a teen mother.

wow other than smooches you are the only other teen on this forum that still wants to stay a virgin. Thats really good.

In reply to:Oh I'm not attacking you... How many times do i read you do that...........say snide comments, then play the injured party when people react, and say "I wasn't attacking you..........like how can anyone think that of poor old you. Im sorry you have implied and made snide comments a lot, then act all bloody innocent..........rolls eyes

The reason very well might be because I plan on not having anything get in the way of my becoming a therapist. I'm a paranoid person, so, the risks seems 100 times more likely to happen to me than they are in reality. Also, I'm not interested in sex, really.

what kind of therapist hon?

I want to work with teenagers, mostly. I want to be a therapist that helps teens(mostly, adults as well) with mental disorders, mainly depression.

i dont live in the US no i live in the UK, here we dont have to pay for healthcare at all we have a choice of private or free NHS national health system so thats not an problem. yeah my bf did have to leave school at 16 but he got good basic qualifications and has enrolled in a home study system which will eventually qualify as a learning assistant for special needs kids. i finished school and did alevels which is one step below uni and im goin 2 uni. i went to a school for young mums with free daycare coz the children were at the same place and yes i will have free child care for uni.my parents do babysit sometimes but not often. we sort that our selves. ans as i said the only benefit we get is a child benefit that every child in england gets to spend on child essentials id get that what ever age.its v easy to think that wed be relyin on the state and its good to see u have ur head swrewed on in knowin the maturity involved in havin kids. its good 2 hear a guy who thinks bout that stuff.i wouldnt want to promote just havin a baby at 15 its not the idea of my posts i wouldnt want to encourage that at all, i was just sayin that with some teen parents its diff. and yeah society can be very antiteen parents but as u said because its not set up for that anymore but there are always going to be people that have kids young. tho no, u wouldnt wanna promote it.its not as glamour and cool as ud think its bloody hard, tyrin and sicky, dirty etc. in my case worthwhile but its not worth havin careless unprotected sex and endin up preg.once you have kids/get preg however u can only blame urself, and the guy so i see what the point bein made was its no1 elses fault. if u cant cope dont have i suppose.anymore qus?

wait... what? Why is it that everything I say someone takes offense to. I think it's me. It must be. Maybe I need to start keeping my big mouth shut. Yes, that's what I'm going to do from now on. Sorry for saying anything at all to begin with.

thats really good that you put more important things first before sex and looking out for your future.

I'll tell you why people take offense, cos you always seem to be getting at someone, making snide comments, maybe you mean them like that maybe you don't, but it comes across like that, and im not the first one to notice........If you don't mean to come across like that, they hey sorry but you are doing...........you seem to look down on people..............