can anyone help with a few ideas and maybe give some words of wisdom on the subject?alright so me and my girlfriend have been tossing around the idea of getting another member in the bed with us. only problem is we can't think of how to go about it. we've picked a few people out that we know and decided who we'd be comfortable with but we aren't sure how to ask them.any advise?Also my girlfriend wants to watch me with someone else or just have me sleep with someone else to gain some experience. So that means sleeping with someone who won't get attached and not be afraid of having the girlfriend get mad. so pretty much like a one night stand or perhaps a friend with benefits.any advise on any of this would be greatly appreciated. THANKS =]
Help with some ideas.
From what I've heard, often these things go wrong because although jealousy was not expected by any participants, it nevertheless happens.
I wouldn't advise doing it. I know if I saw my partner have sex with someone else I don't think I could get over it... think very carefully about whether you will both be able to handle the mental repercussions and jealousy that will follow!
Stay away from someone that either of your know more than in just passing. The common wisdom is that the third party should be someone that can quickly and easily be removed from both of your lives. In other words not someone that either of you will have to see or interact with on any kind of regular or semi-regular basis.
Approach the third body as a super kinky toy you might bring into the bedroom. Yeah it was fun using it that once but you want the ability to put it away and never have to see it again if you don't want to.
There is no punishment. There is no reward. There are only consequences.