My boyfriend has a male room mate and he has had a girlfriend for 3 years. Well we were on his computer and under his history we found gay porn. I know this isn't much to worry about because heterosexuals can look at gay porn all the time. But what really bothered me was that he had a lot of pictures of females with penis's and some that were borderline torture pictures. I think he is a habitual liar and we know he steals. Should we be concerned about the torture thing?
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Weird room mate websites..
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Originally Posted By: mysteriously
...Well we were on his computer and under his history we found gay porn.
Did you also secretly go through all his drawers?Rifle through his desk?
Look in his closet, and also check if he has anything hidden under his socks or underwear?
Did you find and go through his wallet just in case he keeps some pictures if girls with penises in there too?
Did you do a thorough search under his bed and all through his car, including the trunk and glovebox?
**So what gives you the right to snoop through his computer??? **
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Exactly!I have to say ScottyP said it very well....Have you ever heard of the word Privacy ?? Just because you share a dorm room with him doesn't give you the right to snoop.Grow the fuck up!
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While I agree with both of you, it could be that they were using his computer for e-mail, etc. and it just happened to be in the awesome bar, er, address bar, of the browser. Just pointing that fact out...I would imagine that a girlfriend would take any type of porn on her boyfriends computer semi-seriously...
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Thank you for having common sense.. yea we used his computer.. plus there is no such thing as privacy with someone who steals.
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Originally Posted By: LuvMyCatsWhile I agree with both of you, it could be that they were using his computer for e-mail, etc. and it just happened to be in the awesome bar, er, address bar, of the browser. Just pointing that fact out...I would imagine that a girlfriend would take any type of porn on her boyfriends computer semi-seriously... that was to you btw..
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i know allot of people have issues with invading privacy. I understand it and all.. I mean like reading emails and cell phones bla bla.. I use my history a lot. Like if im on a site and lose it or close it out thinking I don’t want to look at it anymore but maybe I need to go back in my history to find it again cus I want to look at it again. Bla bla.. They could have had permission to be on his computer. They could have been looking for something they lost - I see sites my sister has been on and Shannon’s been on.. Bla bla. If something is been seen and no one wants anyone to know it’s called deleting your history. I’ve had my privacy invaded. I was pissed off when ryan found some of my crazy sketches. I get it but on the other side this isn’t just a guy looking aat porn or gay porn.. it’s torture.. Borderline or not it’s still torture. What if it was child porn or child porn torture?It would have been so easy to find her child porn ..staring me. The pictures and the videos…. The toys and shit.. All there… in her closet. All some one had to do is fucking look. Sometimes invading privacy needs to be done. May before doing the invaded privacy speeches she could be getting posts saying don’t jump to conclusions so fast. Talk to a school canceller about signs or something. Or maybe I should just shut the fuck up cus I’m running the fingers from feelings and not mind.
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Why yes, of course. bowsYeah, I agree with you CR, if there's something that someone shouldn't want seen, it's not an entirely hard task to erase history...Firefox even has a keyboard shortcut...and private browsing, lol.Rooting through the browser's history library is one thing, but seeing something pop up as your typing "www.", pause to remember the site name, and it comes up with "www.somepornsite.com" in the drop-down is another...Oh yes, this isn't a discussion about computer privacy... I agree with CR on this too, if you're worried, ask him about it, maybe not flat-out, but just about his, tendencies, or talk to a counselor or someone about it, that's what they're there for.
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If the images weren't illegal, as in kiddy porn, leave it alone. Just because someone may happen onto something, doesn't automatically mean they should take action on it. If he's not hurting you and he's not hurting someone else then stay out of it. If he's a person you consider to be of questionable moral character than stay away from him. Busybodyness gets us nowhere. If you don't like the guy stay away from him. Don't use his computer, don't talk to him, don't interact with him. Let him pursue his life as you pursue yours... and never the twain shall meet.
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Originally Posted By: OldFolksIf the images weren't illegal, as in kiddy porn, leave it alone. Just because someone may happen onto something, doesn't automatically mean they should take action on it. If he's not hurting you and he's not hurting someone else then stay out of it. If he's a person you consider to be of questionable moral character than stay away from him. Busybodyness gets us nowhere. If you don't like the guy stay away from him. Don't use his computer, don't talk to him, don't interact with him. Let him pursue his life as you pursue yours... and never the twain shall meet. Absolutely Agree.Even if you do not trust this perosn, they still deserve their privacy. How would you feel if someone went through your computer and/or personal space? It's a complete violation. I understand you were using his computer, but you still went through his history, which is snooping. Respect peoples privacy!
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Again, I would like to point this out, if some of you didn't know what I meant... This is distinctly different than this.
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Oh I knew what you meant. But the point being is once they seen it they should have left well enough alone. But by the sounds of it they kept snoopy by continuing to look at the websites listed. However it happened... they were still being nosey and invading the roommates privacy.
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My point is it doesn't matter. If they were looking for something intentionally or just happened to stumble across it, it warrants no comment, no extrapolation, and certainly no action. The hows and whys simply don't matter it's a non-issue. They need to mind their own Ps and Qs and let whoever else go one with his life. Secondly, if he is such a bad guy, as the post seems to imply, they need to get away and stay away from him. That includes using his computer, talking to him and without a doubt living with him. To remain in the situation and pick at and condemn how he lives his life is stupid and only serves to be meddlesome and feed a false sense of superiority.
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I'm a card carrying member of SGFTP but I'd hate to have people checking out my personal porn history