About a week ago, I told my best friend some stuff and he asked me if I was Bisexual. Naturally, I slightly panicked because I didn't know how to answer. I always felt different when I was younger, then the feelings were dormant until about 2 years ago. He told me that high school isn't the time to be worrying about it, but he brought it up, now I can't stop thinking about it, so he suggested that I sign up on here. I have had feelings for this one girl, for about a year or so and I really like her, but I never see her anymore. I'm honestly scared because my family always jokes and says "We don't have anyone gay in the family yet, I wonder who It'll be." I've tried dating guys,(including my best friend, but he wasnt physically attracted to me.) I have never had the courage to ask a girl out, but I don't really know any girls that aren't straight anyways. I don't know whether to wait till college or w/e, or jump out of the closet like it's a surprise party. I need some serious advice, this is a majorly sucky dilemma.
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I'm just confused at this point...
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Welcome to A2A, Papa_Roach_4Ever!I don't know how close you are to college. The break from high school to college does often see new relationships, so if you're in your senior year it might be good to wait until then anyway, and concentrate on the schoolwork. You should also consider how family and friends are likely to take it.
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There should be no rush in jumping out of the closet right now. You obviously don't really know yourself. Give it time and come to grips with everything for yourself before you start involving other people.If your in high school your probably still well with in the rage of a normal confusion about sexuality and the feelings you have may very well mean nothing one way or the other.Just don't rush what you think you may be and try to live to what you think that is. Labels aren't really important anyway. College will be a different world where you'll be more free to experiment and work out who you really are and what you like. Use that time wisely because after that it's harder to do, or at least it can have more repercussions. One last thing to consider, if you think your folks could possibly cut you off for being gay and not send you to school, get your eduction first before ever letting them know anything, if indeed you did decide you like the sausage.
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First off I'm a girl. I'm in my junior year of high school I've always known I wasn't straight, but I never really paid attention to myself saying things like "She's pretty, I'd probably do her" while I'm with my brother or my best friend "Charlie" at the mall, then I'd get a funny look from them. Plus the girl I mentioned that i like did kiss me last year, on the cheek, but my mind still went racing. My parents and my dad's side are connected to several people that are gay, and I'm afraid of how my mom will take it, even though one of her best friends is openly gay. Grandma's another story, I have no idea what she'd do. Half of my friends are Conservative Republicans, but they don't need to know before my family does. Over the last year I have been debating on coming out, but there never is a right time to tell anyone something like this.
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Sorry, I didn't get that you where a girl. My apologies. Is "coming out" in the traditional sense really necessary? Obviously, it will be with your family eventually but with friends I think it's a different story. With some of your close friends I can see a reason to let them know, in the do course of time, but even then I don't think it needs to be like an unveiling for everyone to witness. Live your life as you see fit and those who disagree with it will drift away and those who don't will remain. I'm not advocating hiding anything, just not making the process of "coming out" a production that may produce some unnecessary drama.
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It's okay, stuff happens. I know, I worded the whole family thing wrong. Srry. I was thinking of taking baby steps, first my closest friends, who found out last week, then my parents and give them time to get used to it, and see how things go from there. I just have no idea how to tell my parents. I have always been able to pull my mom aside and talk to her about normal girl stuff or fights with "Charlie", but this is a little different. I feel bad that I've been hiding this from my family for a year maybe longer because my dad got in a car accident and things are really tight, I think my bottling this up is what caused my depression. Until Charlie brought it up and gave me the link, I felt trapped in a social "norm". When I posted last night, I felt like i had been freed from my ball and chain.