As I've said more than once, in similar discussions, and even mailed the doc about, the forum needs to be the first page and the rest of site needs to be links across the top of the page. The set-up of this site is for the 90s where you looked up information and read (the main part of this site), then go and discuss if you still have any questions (the forum). Shit doesn't work that way anymore. With the proliferation and normalization of social media people would be more likely to first go to a forum to ask their question then, if at all, research from there. So this site is set up backward. When people come to A2A I imagine many of them are put off by the static, staid and disassociated nature of the main page never staying long enough to look at the forum, much less know it exists. While I don't think making a change, such as I have describe, by itself would return this site to the heady days of yore, I do think it would go long ways to breathing life back into this dried out corpse of a site. But alas, if the doc doesn't care, there's the end of it.
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It's so dead now...
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Ever get a response? Just odd since the guys paying for it, and at least updated the copyright text on the homepage to reflect 2011.The website itself surely would scare new people away. ads randomly placed and abruptly placed pictures of genitals definitely makes it looks like a mix between a porn site and a scammer site. The life of the website has always been the forums, and it could still exist in the form of an anonymous social networking site.But we shouldn't be so down on the site. Regardless, the site has less active members however the few that do visit are still being helped and are learning, and in the end isn't that what matters?
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No, I never got a response. Having said that, I'm not 100% positive of exactly what I sent him. I am pretty sure it was something akin to my previous post.
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unfortunate, yes. I know I’m one of the ones that disappeared, I randomly visit, and rarely post. I can say with out a doubt that I’m not too sure how things would have been if I hadn't joined A2A and the people that helped and encouraged me. I've changed both mentally and physically. I can actually grow a beard now haha... life is so much happier Before I “left” A2A I had talked to Pete a few times that I wanted to post about the abuse and rapes. I started a few times but didn’t go trough it cus I wasn’t ready yet. What’s stopping me now? I have no control over how I’ll react and fear of being triggered back into my past. In therapy most times now I can talk about the past with no emotion what so ever, almost as if my mind and feelings are completely turned off. If my fear of triggers didn’t out weigh me shutting off my emotion then - or if I knew I could control them then I would do it with no second thoughts. I’ve been thinking about it all again especially after reading Stupid man’s post about his ex that has died. (to Stupid_man and hope you don’t mind- if you do ask Pete to delete this next part…) I talked to you pretty regularly when you were with him. I remember him and talked to him too… ( will call him your ex cus I don’t want to use his name) I had no idea he was doing that to you. I knew you two had your problems but …well I just never knew you were as miserable as I was. The internet was my escape and I wasn’t allowed friends. I even kept my internet friends from her. She despised Paul and got me into trouble every chance she could with dad over talking to him. She turned Paul into the monster in my dad’s mind. When the computer went off…… especially when Ryan was gone I was being raped. Some how in my 14 / 15 year old mind I thought if I stayed on the net she wouldn’t mess with me. Like when Ryan was around she wouldn’t try to mess with me. Maybe she knew something I didn’t ever think about but have since and looking back - I cant figure it out but I dk why I had that mind set. Hell broke loose after I told my brother and we told my parents about the party he had. Part of me wished I never joined A2A and part of me was glad I blew up on the site. The bad things started getting worse but good things began to happen too. I know I wouldn’t have stuck around A2A with out the people I had met and maybe would have never ever met them if I hadn’t blew up. I used to let it bother me that I was thought of as a troll but not anymore. If it helps you sleep better to think I’m a troll so be it… I was 21 before I could go to sleep with out taking pills. I know how it is to not be able to sleep or worse to develop a dream phobia. I never thought I’d make it through my teens and now I’m 22 and soon will graduating from collage in May 2012. Next fall I’ll start student teaching…
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Originally Posted By: *CR!*unfortunate, yes. I know I’m one of the ones that disappeared, I randomly visit, and rarely post. I can say with out a doubt that I’m not too sure how things would have been if I hadn't joined A2A and the people that helped and encouraged me. I've changed both mentally and physically. I can actually grow a beard now haha... life is so much happier And you deleted that PM you sent me from a new account I was going back to reply and it was gone.. I'm glad things are looking up for you.
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i didn't delete it... i had to email Pete and get things fixed. the rhino account was deleted and that’s why the pm left. I couldn’t log in either and i had to get Pete to change my email cus i forgot my password and the email i had my CR! account with i no longer use and don’t exist anymore. I wasn’t too happy when rhino got deleted… The deletion meant my posts got deleted (not a big deal though) and I couldn’t read your pm reply - that’s what I was most upset about. ps- I liked Rhino better than i do CR! lol
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Its weird how this board affected my life off of the board. I definitely understand exactly what you are saying in your post. I only let one person from the "real world" in on this site, well he is dead now. This site is really a private escape that I have used over the years and is great to have. I remember when it was even difficult to post on here, or write things that weren't "completely honest" because I was even ashamed of strangers. A few of us were lucky to be the first (and essentially the last) to have grown up on the boards. I am not grateful for many things (as I am a cocky bastard) but this site was there through the thick and the thin. In reality my ex was only a small portion of my life, now years later barely flickering on my radar. Without a site like this which helped me through it, maybe I would have dwelled longer. CR hopefully you'll stick around. It was all of our incessant back and forth banter that really helped this site get off the ground in the first place!
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While I didn't by any means grow-up here, this site has meant a lot to me in a different way. By the time I came here the crises of my youth had already been, for the most part, dealt with and put away. However, this place was important to me to, at least for awhile, develop friendships. I have a crippling fear (that's not the right word).... inability to interact with people. Something I still sufferer from. Somehow it's different at this place though. For a few brief shining years I had a circle of friends that I could talk to on a almost daily basis, and that's something I've never really experience, that much in my life, and it's something for which I'm enormously thankful. Jesus Christ, this sounds like eulogy. It is ironic for me that over last six months, with the ending of my marriage, when I have really, really needed this place it's to dead to bother even stopping by. Yes, fate is a cruel bitch.
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Scotty you know I will always be here if you ever need to talk. ANYTIME I promise!
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Originally Posted By: OldFolksYes, fate is a cruel bitch. Agreed, fate is cruel indeed. Wish I could do something for you to make it better. hugs hang in there buddy things will get better for sure. I am here for you if you need me.